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I am 42 single mum of 2 with my father (80) living 3 months with me in the UK & 3 months in the US with his girlfriend who is 15 yrs younger, there is no love lost between us as she set out here stall in the beginning saying she wanted to be with my father for financial support!
My situation is unique in that I noticed he was not 100% 3 years ago I have had dad tested privately & NHS he has a mild cognitive impairment (MCI) here in England they do not medicate in Scotland they do & also in the USA. So he has not formally been diagnosed with Alzheimer's even though over the last 3 years he has declined. However he is medicated in the US from his girlfriends Dr with sample packs of Aricept he has been on a steady dose of 10mg for a while, during his last visit he came back dosed with 23mg over twice the dose. He was jittery and hyper so I took him to the Dr and he was advised to go back to 10mg so the GP with his consultant wrote a prescription for 10mg for him, I was then advised that the GP should not have done that. His girlfriend's US GP thru her says he will only give 23mg now not 10mg & my father is having a go at me saying I'm not acting in his best interests (please note he is not calm or reasonable just ranting!) My kids get scared at night when he starts shouting on his phone in his room to the girlfriend. I had a long conversation with his Dr just last night who cannot help I'm waiting for the consultant to come to do a capacity test. He has an eye op this Tuesday. The girlfriend wants him to re write his will this is just a snap shot I'm trying to survive I'm exhausted and relish those quiet moments.
Dad if you met him as he is bright can converse and tell you stories recite poetry even in Latin! however he could not tell you what he had for breakfast and seems to live in a dual life between here & the US believing totally in the moment what he is saying & deciding. Sorry if this is disjointed but I did not know where to start...... I told his consultant a section of one particularly day & she said oh that is hard for you. My kids are really cool and do so well in the circumstances I'm SO proud of them. We LOVE dad so much and want he to have an active healthy life. I would never do anything to hinder my dad's health but I'm being tested by the UK medical service & the US Dr. I've even written to my MP!
I am 42 single mum of 2 with my father (80) living 3 months with me in the UK & 3 months in the US with his girlfriend who is 15 yrs younger, there is no love lost between us as she set out here stall in the beginning saying she wanted to be with my father for financial support!
My situation is unique in that I noticed he was not 100% 3 years ago I have had dad tested privately & NHS he has a mild cognitive impairment (MCI) here in England they do not medicate in Scotland they do & also in the USA. So he has not formally been diagnosed with Alzheimer's even though over the last 3 years he has declined. However he is medicated in the US from his girlfriends Dr with sample packs of Aricept he has been on a steady dose of 10mg for a while, during his last visit he came back dosed with 23mg over twice the dose. He was jittery and hyper so I took him to the Dr and he was advised to go back to 10mg so the GP with his consultant wrote a prescription for 10mg for him, I was then advised that the GP should not have done that. His girlfriend's US GP thru her says he will only give 23mg now not 10mg & my father is having a go at me saying I'm not acting in his best interests (please note he is not calm or reasonable just ranting!) My kids get scared at night when he starts shouting on his phone in his room to the girlfriend. I had a long conversation with his Dr just last night who cannot help I'm waiting for the consultant to come to do a capacity test. He has an eye op this Tuesday. The girlfriend wants him to re write his will this is just a snap shot I'm trying to survive I'm exhausted and relish those quiet moments.
Dad if you met him as he is bright can converse and tell you stories recite poetry even in Latin! however he could not tell you what he had for breakfast and seems to live in a dual life between here & the US believing totally in the moment what he is saying & deciding. Sorry if this is disjointed but I did not know where to start...... I told his consultant a section of one particularly day & she said oh that is hard for you. My kids are really cool and do so well in the circumstances I'm SO proud of them. We LOVE dad so much and want he to have an active healthy life. I would never do anything to hinder my dad's health but I'm being tested by the UK medical service & the US Dr. I've even written to my MP!