Hi,
While visiting an elderly uncle in a local nursing home I witnessed a 'conversation' between a young careworker and an elderly lady (in her 90's) who wanted to go up to her room. It was that time of the evening (around 6.30pm)when many of the residents seem to be taken off to bed. This elderly lady kept asking to go to her room and was impatient to wait 'her turn' when the careworker suddenly raised her voice and told her off saying 'we have this conversation everynight X and I've told you we do the downstairs and the girls from the upstairs will come and get you asap'...and words to this effect. This was done in front of visitors and I was quite taken aback at the tone of this careworker. This clearly upset the old lady who continued to argue with her for a while getting more agitated and saying 'this is the waiting house', 'I call this the waiting house' 'they've always something else to do' .
I can't get it out of my head. I was so close to saying to the careworker to 'back off' but didn't because of my old uncle (who hasn't dementia) but I'm sitting here thinking I should speak to social services about her. The more I think about this careworker's attitude the more annoyed I get. Clearly she has no understaning of dementia and doesn't seem to realise that repeating oneself is part of the illness. Instead of reassuring the old lady she spoke to her in a way that you wouldn't speak to anybody.
I want to speak to social services about this person (and identify myself as I was a witness to this) yet it will make things so awkward when I next visit my uncle.
What would you do? - I can't get it out of my head. If this careworker is speaking to a resident in this manner in front of visitors, what must it be like when there are no visitors there?
While visiting an elderly uncle in a local nursing home I witnessed a 'conversation' between a young careworker and an elderly lady (in her 90's) who wanted to go up to her room. It was that time of the evening (around 6.30pm)when many of the residents seem to be taken off to bed. This elderly lady kept asking to go to her room and was impatient to wait 'her turn' when the careworker suddenly raised her voice and told her off saying 'we have this conversation everynight X and I've told you we do the downstairs and the girls from the upstairs will come and get you asap'...and words to this effect. This was done in front of visitors and I was quite taken aback at the tone of this careworker. This clearly upset the old lady who continued to argue with her for a while getting more agitated and saying 'this is the waiting house', 'I call this the waiting house' 'they've always something else to do' .
I can't get it out of my head. I was so close to saying to the careworker to 'back off' but didn't because of my old uncle (who hasn't dementia) but I'm sitting here thinking I should speak to social services about her. The more I think about this careworker's attitude the more annoyed I get. Clearly she has no understaning of dementia and doesn't seem to realise that repeating oneself is part of the illness. Instead of reassuring the old lady she spoke to her in a way that you wouldn't speak to anybody.
I want to speak to social services about this person (and identify myself as I was a witness to this) yet it will make things so awkward when I next visit my uncle.
What would you do? - I can't get it out of my head. If this careworker is speaking to a resident in this manner in front of visitors, what must it be like when there are no visitors there?