Having made the decision that mum will have to be cared for in a home (something that really does fill me with deep sorrow that I can't give her 24/7 care,) I am now worrying about how we help ease the transition.
She is completely against the idea that she needs any help and opposes the carers going into her house. She even became verbally abusive to carers and to the nurses in the cognitive therapy group she attends - rarely completes a full session as she becomes so agitated that I am asked to collect her.
Because of her feistiness, we have been advised by different people (including health professionals) that we will need to give her a settling-in period and not to visit until she settles into the home routine.
This seems really cruel!
Any thoughts or advice please? I really want to do the best for my mum. Don't even know how we are going to actually get her into the home in the first place!!!
She is completely against the idea that she needs any help and opposes the carers going into her house. She even became verbally abusive to carers and to the nurses in the cognitive therapy group she attends - rarely completes a full session as she becomes so agitated that I am asked to collect her.
Because of her feistiness, we have been advised by different people (including health professionals) that we will need to give her a settling-in period and not to visit until she settles into the home routine.
This seems really cruel!
Any thoughts or advice please? I really want to do the best for my mum. Don't even know how we are going to actually get her into the home in the first place!!!