Children should be forced to care for parents and grandparents

[Charlyparly]

Not MY opinion by any means!!!! It is the opinion of Baroness Deech, as published in the Daily Mail yesterday and it infuriated me to say the least. Caring for relatives is never an easy task but this woman makes out as though it’s “cosy” and straightforward.

What a ridiculous statement to make.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1247883/Children-forced-care-parents-grandparents-repay-free-childcare.html

 

[Heather777]

Well what can you really say to any of this? Having cared for both my parents and not always willingly I would NEVER ask my daughter to have to do things for me that I have done for them.

We will have to end up having children to secure our care for when we are older, what if we chose not to have children, are children have their own needs etc.

In an ideal world children would be supported to care, proper access to services , respite, financial support, good understanding of the whole process etc.

Heather

 

[dillydaydream]

What if "home" becomes unknown?

I'm starting to lose patience every time I read somebody pontificating on how a dementia patient is so much happier in their familiar surroundings. Do they not understand that, for some, "home" is no longer familiar? it is a place from which they want to escape. They do not recognise the space, furniture, fittings, photographs and, eventually, the person who is looking after them. Mum is still with me after nine years but is increasingly anxious to get back to her real daughter (me) and an imaginary son. Every door leading to every room is rediscovered every hour - even where to sit is, for her, a dilemma.

I can understand the principal of the need to care for our loved ones but surely one can't legislate for how much we should care or are able to care. Does anybody feel like digging up any other ancient laws - how about being shipped to Australia for stealing a loaf of bread!

Carolyn x

 

[Skye]

What a dreadful idea! I can't imagine anything worse than being cared for by someone who is 'forced to care'.

 

[Padraig]

Different worlds

The best thing about the article is the wonderful cartoon.
What I find the most interesting about this woman's statements is that it reflects my sentiments as expressed in the first chapter of my book; 'The Battery Children.'
"It should therefore come as no surprise that their mind-set towards 'unfortunate' children, was to do as I have done, say as I have said, think as I do, read what I have read. Follow your leader, it was a perpetual example."

Someone should should point out to her that the world has moved on and fewer people have nannies these days.

 

[Tender Face]

I personally find it fascinating that this should come from the woman who chaired the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Association for several years. But then I am an old cynic.

She certainly doesn’t shy away from the controversial does she?

Karen, x

 

[ElaineMaul]

You know ..... I haven't even read it yet, but just seeing it's the Daily Mail ..... do I really want to?

Elaine

 

[Lynne]

Preposterous
.
'Okay. I'll go and tidy my room. But you'll regret this
- in 40 years' time be afraid. Be very afraid!'

 

[Norrms]

Thank you

Thank you Lynn, thats so funny, you have cheered me up on a very shaky day xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[christine_batch]

There are lots of people who do not want children so who will look after them?

I did not have children to look after me when I am old.

Nor would I like to put my children and grandchildren through what we have experienced in AD/Dementia.

Christine

 

[Jaye]

Do you suppose that Baroness Deech ever experienced the joys of spending her teenage years sharing a bedroom with granny or great aunt? Perhaps she had to sleep in the garden shed because her family ran out of rooms altogether when the older generation could no longer live alone?

 

[Cjay]

In an ideal world the grass would always be green, there would be no illness, and no more wars. This is not an ideal world, we all deal with our lives, and living as individuals, what is right for one person doesn't make it right for another. So with what authority and arrogance does this woman think she has the right to make such a statement? Does she not realise that the decision for many to place their loved one's in residential care comes at a cost? and I don't mean financial cost. I mean the waking up in the night worrying, crying because you are not able to cope anymore, hoping that you've made the right decision, the guilt that engulfs you cost.
Does she not think that the advice doesn't just come from the families, in most cases there is a multi agency input, advising that this is the best solution for the persons concerned.
What if the relationships are fragile, who is most at risk?
The baroness needs to speak to carers and their families, before she gives us the benefit of her wisdom!!
Cjay

 

[ChristineR62]

Might I suggest that the orifice the Baroness is speaking out of is not located on her face ...

 

[Soobee]

I think I would either commit homicide or suicide if forced to live with my mum again, we almost killed each other first time round and I ran away from home several times and moved out as soon as I could.

I tell you what, let's send her one parent a day to look after and see how many days she lasts...

 

[Norman]

I read this somewhere.
Norman
Just remember folks "Look after your kids,they are the ones that will put you in an home"

 

[lin1]

who does she think she is. id love her to come here for a day and look after mum it would certainly open her eyes.Dont she realise it is mostly not our choice to put our loved ones into care homes.

love that cartoon it made me smile,

 

[ElaineMaul]

Perhaps we should email the link to this thread to the Daily Mail and ask them to forward it onto her

..... see if she cares to respond

Elaine

 

[Bristolbelle]

Slight problem

some of us have disabled children who could not look after us anyway.