Hello everyone
I need your help and advice again please.
Firstly has anyone got any information on Mirtizapine. This is apparently the drug that mom is going on and I was wondering about the side effects and the possibility of this maybe causing mom to be a little sedated.
Secondly my sister visited mom yesterday. The residents have been moved into a new lounge which will be a much better place for them but they were all a little confused. Anyhow my sister was greeted by a member of staff who said that mom was upset. My sister found mom in the new lounge really distraught. She was with another resident who she gets on very well with and my sister was told by mom and her friend that another resident, who mom hates, had upset her. My sister couldn't get much infor except that mom said that this lady was always following her and that she has known her for a long time, not true, and that mom wanted to split her in half and watch her blood run out. Nasty. Eventually mom calmed down a little but continued to say really horrible things about this other lady and she growled at her whenever she went past. I rang the home this morning and was told that mom isn't being followed and that this other lady is quite quiet and that nine out of ten times mom is the instigator and they have to take mom away and calm her down. Mom insists that she used to know this lady and won't be swayed from this. I asked how mom was today and was told that another incident had occurred and that mom had started to shout at this lady and had to be taken out of the lounge again to be calmed down. This has been happening fo a while but seems to be getting worse and we just don't know how to handle it. Should we tell mom that her behaviour is not right, will she remember this. We are worried that if this become too bad that the home may ask us to move mom. Mom has always had a tendandcy to nastiness but this is quite bad. Could it be part of the AD Please advise if you can. Visits have been so stressful lately with mom crying almost continuously that my husband is now saying that my sister and I should only visit together but this would mean that mom only gets one visit a week and this seems a little sad. Also I don't want the carers at the home to see mom like this and I don't want her to talk about killing people and calling them a bitch.
I have even started to wish that mom would go downhill. How cruel is that.
What a life.
Sorry but I am so sad at the moment. Jacky
I need your help and advice again please.
Firstly has anyone got any information on Mirtizapine. This is apparently the drug that mom is going on and I was wondering about the side effects and the possibility of this maybe causing mom to be a little sedated.
Secondly my sister visited mom yesterday. The residents have been moved into a new lounge which will be a much better place for them but they were all a little confused. Anyhow my sister was greeted by a member of staff who said that mom was upset. My sister found mom in the new lounge really distraught. She was with another resident who she gets on very well with and my sister was told by mom and her friend that another resident, who mom hates, had upset her. My sister couldn't get much infor except that mom said that this lady was always following her and that she has known her for a long time, not true, and that mom wanted to split her in half and watch her blood run out. Nasty. Eventually mom calmed down a little but continued to say really horrible things about this other lady and she growled at her whenever she went past. I rang the home this morning and was told that mom isn't being followed and that this other lady is quite quiet and that nine out of ten times mom is the instigator and they have to take mom away and calm her down. Mom insists that she used to know this lady and won't be swayed from this. I asked how mom was today and was told that another incident had occurred and that mom had started to shout at this lady and had to be taken out of the lounge again to be calmed down. This has been happening fo a while but seems to be getting worse and we just don't know how to handle it. Should we tell mom that her behaviour is not right, will she remember this. We are worried that if this become too bad that the home may ask us to move mom. Mom has always had a tendandcy to nastiness but this is quite bad. Could it be part of the AD Please advise if you can. Visits have been so stressful lately with mom crying almost continuously that my husband is now saying that my sister and I should only visit together but this would mean that mom only gets one visit a week and this seems a little sad. Also I don't want the carers at the home to see mom like this and I don't want her to talk about killing people and calling them a bitch.
I have even started to wish that mom would go downhill. How cruel is that.
What a life.
Sorry but I am so sad at the moment. Jacky