Hi all, Ive not posted in a while. We are now at the agonising stage of putting our 92 year old Dad into a care home. My sister and I promised we would look after him in an appartment next to Sis's house but it has become very stressful for all of us and his carers. He has gone downhill so much this past year and become increasiningly unpredictible and unable to do things he once could and his language is very hard to understand now.
I read the book "Contented dementia" mentioned here some time back which I found very useful. They advocate the "SPECAL" method to help keep people with dementia in their "green zones" by focussing on one or two key themes that bring a strong "green/positive response" from them almost every time they are mentioned, keeping them out of the rather distressing "red" zones. Dads key themes are trains, praying and singing.
Their method on the transition to a care home sounds good to me where you introduce the client to the care home a few days before the move, with family members and friends visiting as normal; then you ease them in/shadow them for the first few days or week so they settle more easily and you can keep them in their green zone while letting the care staff gradually take over from you. It takes time but is supposed to make the transition easier for our loved ones.
Has anyone done it this way? I find it so hard to contemplate just leaving Dad there at the home with the care staff as I I know he will be very distressed by being out of his environment.
Helen
I read the book "Contented dementia" mentioned here some time back which I found very useful. They advocate the "SPECAL" method to help keep people with dementia in their "green zones" by focussing on one or two key themes that bring a strong "green/positive response" from them almost every time they are mentioned, keeping them out of the rather distressing "red" zones. Dads key themes are trains, praying and singing.
Their method on the transition to a care home sounds good to me where you introduce the client to the care home a few days before the move, with family members and friends visiting as normal; then you ease them in/shadow them for the first few days or week so they settle more easily and you can keep them in their green zone while letting the care staff gradually take over from you. It takes time but is supposed to make the transition easier for our loved ones.
Has anyone done it this way? I find it so hard to contemplate just leaving Dad there at the home with the care staff as I I know he will be very distressed by being out of his environment.
Helen