Money...the root of all evil ....
We have gone round and round the subject of money, and its a flipping mine field. My husband would like to have control over her finances to stop the other three siblings from doing taking whatever they want, but is reluctant to do it because then it will be him who has to say no to them, and we can do without any more arguments. But we MUST do something before they spend the lot and there is no money for care. We have had to put a stop to the amount of their friends she paid to do odd jobs, these jobs didnt exist because we made sure everything was in order. So she was giving out cash for nothing. I wish you could have all heard the conversation I had with her "plumber", who she thought was doing the work cheap as a favor, but she was really paying him double..and giving him a tip - for nothing.
We have gone round and round the subject of money, and its a flipping mine field. My husband would like to have control over her finances to stop the other three siblings from doing taking whatever they want, but is reluctant to do it because then it will be him who has to say no to them, and we can do without any more arguments. But we MUST do something before they spend the lot and there is no money for care. We have had to put a stop to the amount of their friends she paid to do odd jobs, these jobs didnt exist because we made sure everything was in order. So she was giving out cash for nothing. I wish you could have all heard the conversation I had with her "plumber", who she thought was doing the work cheap as a favor, but she was really paying him double..and giving him a tip - for nothing.