Holding your breatyh is all very well, but if you live in the same house its impossible!!!
Mary has had one shower, (and one bath that didn't take place) in the six years she has lived with us.
I've tried every combination of things I can think of to get her to wash, all to no avail. I usually get told she's an adult ( which she is!!) and she doesn't have to be told to dress, what to wear etc etc, or when to wash.
I've tried telling her she smells,the kids have told her they don't like to sit next to her at dinner cos she smells etc etc.
We've got my eldest sons wedding in less than a month, and I'm at a loss what to do. She needs some clothes that fit ( everything has got too tight lately, but if we buy new clothes they get carefully put to one side because they aren't hers!!!)She needs a haircut, but how can I expect a hairdresser to come that close?
I take her clothes for washing, and usually I'm able to at least keep reminding her to change her knickers etc ( which incidentally I have to hunt for, as she tends to hide them because they are soiled, but NO don't dare suggest she has continence problems!!!!!)
I know she has fungal problems because she's recently had an ecg, where the smell from the navel was enought to make me retch. But, when I try to put the cream on she was prescribed, I'm told to get lost, becuase how can I possibly know that her belly button is sore!!!! She says it isn't, so it isn't, in spite of the discharge I have to wash off her vest.
One thing I have learned, you cannot make someone who doesn't want to wash do so, I just can't face the same arguments every day, month, year!