Past suggestions from me that I would need to involve social services if she didn't wash were met with point blank refusal to allow it, if she doesn't want them, they aren't coming in.
Then tell Mary you will let them in, because they helping you not her .
As we all know, moods can change from minute to minute.
That is very true, so who knows what reaction Mary give the social worker, even if its negative at lest SW will know what stress your under.
With me Just got to the point that on one occasions, I have had to walk out of the house, just leaving mum all alone, not come back to the evening we where both living together at that time.
Social service was never of any help to me in giving me tips in how to get mum to wash, all they could offer is a carer to come in the house to wash mum in my career assessment. It was my carer assessment even if mum not wanting it while with me saying to my mother “I can’t cope anymore, so I need carer to help me to help you “while mum tell me she does not need any help.
Somehow between us over a long time with me standing in background mum let carer wash her, (some days mum was not in the mood for a wash, so I told her to leave it for today)
I am wondering, I don't want her to miss the wedding, but when I mention getting a haircut, getting new clothes etc, she says she doesn't see why she has to go, telling her its her grandson and she is family makes no difference. So, what do I do?
I got my friend who is a hairdresser to come to my place, cut mum hair, while mum saying “she won't hurt me “again between the both of us we convince mum to let her cut her hair , she would spray wet mum hair rather than wash it .
If worse come to the worse and on the wedding day Mary does not let anyone wash her cut her hair, she does not wash herself. Spray a nice smelling perfume over her when she not looking.
If Mary does not want to go, tell her OK stay here on your own, but I am going . even if mary forget what you said , repeat it to her . Every time the wedding conversation come up
I mention getting a haircut, getting new clothes etc, she says she doesn't see why she has to go
I mention getting a haircut, getting new clothes etc,
May be its Just all to much information for her .
Try not letting her spoil your mood of the build up to the wedding day, because you never know what the future hold on the day or the day before the wedding , Mary may Just wash self and want to go, when she seeing you all getting ready to go.
Just keep telling tell her OK stay here on your own?
What date is the wedding ?