Hi Richard, We had this problem with my dad in Blackpool Victoria,he had broken his femur, also just the week before told he had terminal cancer so he was already very ill and died 6wks later, dads problem was, because of his broken femur he was on the orthopiedic ward, they were not interested in how he felt with his cancer and told us in no uncertain terms, that they were there to fix bones, I think dad didn't eat for severall reasons, they never gave him his teeth, I would put them in for him and the next day he would be without again, they would bring in his food and 10mins later would take it away, other patiants told us they didn't even lift the lids to check if he'd eaten or not, nor did any member of staff talk to him or attempt to pass the time of day at all, dad never complained to them or us, had the other patiants not told us we would never have known.
As soon as we found out about his lack of care, we contacted the McMillan ward who had him transfered to a hospice within an hour.
I would say to you, you do whatever you need to do in the best interest of your wife, if she makes a mess she makes a mess, they will have to clean up, its part of there job, I am caring for my mother full time now and believe me, if she or any member of my family need to go into hospital I will be on the ball from day one, although our hospital where we live is very nice I have not heard complaints like the ones we had in Blackpool.
Good luck Lynn