My mum is settled in her care home and so things in my life are getting more on track. She has declined so much in her memory, and doesn't really know who I am, but I have got used to that, pretty much. We took her out for my birthday at the weekend and she was on good form. But the care home called to say after she got back she was really anxious and they couldn't settle her for hours. Apparently she kept wanting to go outside saying "my people are out there". The care home suggested that maybe we shouldn't take her out for long trips like this. That makes me so upset - as if she is happier in her own world and it's better for her to forget us completely. The care home is a good one and I think she is genuinely ok most of the time. So maybe it's just another mental adjustment of mine to make.