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@Rosalind297 Yes Rosalind our mums do sound like have similar old ideas about homes. Mum is scared of them.
Unfortunately I'm not sure she'll be able to stay in her home even with carers as she's so scared of being alone now and carers won't be there at night and I'm not sure she can live with us due to stairs etc and I can't stay with her at her house indefinately, last night I slept on sofa cushions on the living room floor. I will take over our fold up bed tonight and more clothes etc for me to stay with her but it's not ideal as mum lives in small 1 bed bungalow and I'll have to keep making bed up in living room for me. Also I've not had chance to check fully but I'm not sure she'll be able to stay in house long term as it's an almhouse and I'm pretty sure when moved in it said it's not for people who need long term care. Also last night she kept shouting me from bedroom as well as getting up which most likely woke neighbours as you can hear quite a lot through walls so they won't be happy if that carries on long term. Also on a selfish note not sure i can go on with nights like that as well as constant questions and attention during the day.
The gp was very nice today but he hasn't really moved things along any quicker so I'll still have to be staying over at mums for the time being as she doesn't want to be alone and still confused about where lives and what she does with herself.
We did at least get her test results from last weeks blood tests and hopefully he'll have made note on mums records about what has happened lately and some more of her symptoms I got to tell him about today that I didn't get chance to mention at first appointment.
She doesn't have any infections but is low in folic acid, vitamin D and vitamin B12 he said she looks a bit anaemic so has had another blood test today to check iron levels as they werent previously checked.
He has given her tablets for folic acid and vit D and we booked in for 6 B12 injections every other day in a few weeks time.
I told him some symptoms have been happening for ages, a couple of years but she has only just agreed to go because she is scared they'll put her in a home and also keeps changing her mind about going. I told him things had got much worse the last few months and then the last few days worse again.
Told him about her ringing upset and confused yesterday morning and still being confused through day and last night not wanting to be alone, her not recognising house and been up n down all night and has been saying she wants to die because she can't be alone and doesn't want to go in a home. I said I had to stay at hers as couldn't leave her on her own and I have stairs at mine and she's very wobbly on them.
He asked mum what she remembered about yesterday and she said she thought she'd been ok and had been at my house all day. (we'd been at hers)
Talked to her about eating which mum keeps saying is because she lives alone n you can't be bothered when just you so I told him sometimes she forgot how to make dinner and that she doesn't eat much when eats with us either. I told him she's barely eaten since had constipation/upset tummy bout about three months ago and never finishes anything and, just tiny amounts, it's since then she's not been doing much and is wobbly when standing.
He weighed her and used weight from health check she had in early 2018 when she weighed 75 kilo, he didn't say what weighed now just that she had lost a lot of weight, but I could see dial was below 65 so must be over 10 kilos in 18 months and most of that will have been in last 3 months . He also tested her balance which he said wasn't great, it could be down to her not eating properly and being low in vitamins.
He talked to mum about general health and then about what low in and what he wanted to do. Said the b12 can contribute to confusion and forgetting so may feel better after injections.Could be causing it or could be making her worse. He still wants her to have memory tests so keep Mondays visit with memory nurse and Tuesdays gp visit there so can check her iron from todays blood test and check up on her again see how doing.
Told her not to worry about going in a home she was still in charge and it was still up to her so not to dwell on it.
Its been a very long morning as left mums at 9.30 for 10.10 appointment but had to wait as he was dealing with an emergency so was an hour late seeing us. Then we had to wait downstairs for blood test and make appointment with nurse about b12 so it was 11.45 when we left doctors then we had to collect perscription which we also had to wait for so was half past 12 by time we got in.
We're both totally shattered now, mum has shut her eyes for ten minutes a few times bless her and the rest of the time she keeps asking does she have to go back to doctors, did she have to take some tablets, will I remind her to take them and when to go doctors.
I hope she settles better and we get some sleep tonight.