Hi,
I'm caring for my elderly mother at home. I have a care package in place which I'm hoping to review as it no longer suits & also day carers as my mother was falling.
My main issue at the moment is my mother refusing to get out of bed.
She started refusing to get up for the carers & progressively staying longer in bed. Mostly it's between 2 & 3pm by the time she gets up, yesterday it was 5pm - it took an hour to persuade her. She was doubly incontinent but still didn't want to get out of bed. She won't let us brush her hair, wash her properly or cut her fingernails. I do try to encourage my mother to do these things for herself but she does need help. I'm worried her skin will start to break down & she simply cannot be left in bed all day like that. Also we only have 2 - 4 hrs to get her to eat & drink before she goes back to bed.
She's become disagreeable over almost everything, complaining a lot.
I've rang GP who is arranging for bloods to be taken but I don't think my mother will allow it.
My mother has always disliked having carers but it's the only was we could cope & keep her safe at home.
Currently no dementia related medication.
Also rang psychiatrist who diagnosed my mother for advice, waiting to hear back.
SW involved but hasn't been any help.
Any advice so gratefully received.
Kind regards
Sharon
I'm caring for my elderly mother at home. I have a care package in place which I'm hoping to review as it no longer suits & also day carers as my mother was falling.
My main issue at the moment is my mother refusing to get out of bed.
She started refusing to get up for the carers & progressively staying longer in bed. Mostly it's between 2 & 3pm by the time she gets up, yesterday it was 5pm - it took an hour to persuade her. She was doubly incontinent but still didn't want to get out of bed. She won't let us brush her hair, wash her properly or cut her fingernails. I do try to encourage my mother to do these things for herself but she does need help. I'm worried her skin will start to break down & she simply cannot be left in bed all day like that. Also we only have 2 - 4 hrs to get her to eat & drink before she goes back to bed.
She's become disagreeable over almost everything, complaining a lot.
I've rang GP who is arranging for bloods to be taken but I don't think my mother will allow it.
My mother has always disliked having carers but it's the only was we could cope & keep her safe at home.
Currently no dementia related medication.
Also rang psychiatrist who diagnosed my mother for advice, waiting to hear back.
SW involved but hasn't been any help.
Any advice so gratefully received.
Kind regards
Sharon