My OH, is 91 and has vascular dementia. I am 85 and we are due at an important family wedding a 2 hour drive from home in 6 weeks. Last week he soiled himself for the first time ever, we had only walked 100yards from home. He realised what he'd done and, surprisingly, remembered it the following day.
Is this likely to be a one-off or can somebody tell me if this is the start of permanent incontinence? I am desperate for tips or advice from anyone who has attended a function with an incontinent dementia patient.
I am on the point of cancelling as I would never go alone and leave him all day with a paid stranger. His anxiety levels would be through the roof.
Are there pads he could wear which eliminate the odour should it happen in Church or at the reception?
Where and how do your clean a person up if you are outdoors and miles from facilities?
What do you do with the tissues and pads etc if you are away from home?
Is there a bottle which he could use to wee en route and would it be able to be sealed afterwards?
I really wanted to be at the wedding but is my best option to forget about it and just look forward to the photos?
Please help
Is this likely to be a one-off or can somebody tell me if this is the start of permanent incontinence? I am desperate for tips or advice from anyone who has attended a function with an incontinent dementia patient.
I am on the point of cancelling as I would never go alone and leave him all day with a paid stranger. His anxiety levels would be through the roof.
Are there pads he could wear which eliminate the odour should it happen in Church or at the reception?
Where and how do your clean a person up if you are outdoors and miles from facilities?
What do you do with the tissues and pads etc if you are away from home?
Is there a bottle which he could use to wee en route and would it be able to be sealed afterwards?
I really wanted to be at the wedding but is my best option to forget about it and just look forward to the photos?
Please help