Good morning. This is my first thread here...signed up this morning. My need for advice is for my mum. She has....well I’m not sure actually what she has as we haven’t been able to get her to engage with anything to even start the route of a diagnosis....but she clearly has problems. So my question is about what to do and in what order etc etc. Any guidance would be very welcome!
Our dad (me and my brother) passed away last May. Mum now lives alone and physically manages very well. House is spotless, does her own laundry, she is always clean etc and looks after herself well. It’s her memory and behaviour that are the issues and her total refusal to see there is any need to even discuss our concerns. Her short term memory is very bad and she now often struggles to find the right words to say. Since dad passed away she has talked about him saying he’d like certain things for dinner and that he might be home later. This is getting worse and she is now taking about needing to go and find him, ringing my brother and I regularly to ask if we know where he is. Last night this also extended to asking the same about her long deceased mother in law. Apparently both of them had been in the garden that morning but had now gone. It’s awful to see and hear someone who was always the rock of our family suddenly be like this. But I guess everyone here will know that feeing.
We have POA for both health and finance issues. I have spoken with her GP and asked for help. He has confirmed he’s seen a big deterioration in cognitive functioning and has offered memory clinics etc. But mum refuses to even accept she needs to have tests or consider any form of help. She becomes aggressive when we try and push the issue. I’m sure compared to some of your experiences here this seems very minor, but I’m not sure which way to tackle things and would be grateful for any guidance. Thank you
Our dad (me and my brother) passed away last May. Mum now lives alone and physically manages very well. House is spotless, does her own laundry, she is always clean etc and looks after herself well. It’s her memory and behaviour that are the issues and her total refusal to see there is any need to even discuss our concerns. Her short term memory is very bad and she now often struggles to find the right words to say. Since dad passed away she has talked about him saying he’d like certain things for dinner and that he might be home later. This is getting worse and she is now taking about needing to go and find him, ringing my brother and I regularly to ask if we know where he is. Last night this also extended to asking the same about her long deceased mother in law. Apparently both of them had been in the garden that morning but had now gone. It’s awful to see and hear someone who was always the rock of our family suddenly be like this. But I guess everyone here will know that feeing.
We have POA for both health and finance issues. I have spoken with her GP and asked for help. He has confirmed he’s seen a big deterioration in cognitive functioning and has offered memory clinics etc. But mum refuses to even accept she needs to have tests or consider any form of help. She becomes aggressive when we try and push the issue. I’m sure compared to some of your experiences here this seems very minor, but I’m not sure which way to tackle things and would be grateful for any guidance. Thank you