I am new to TP but have regularly used the forum over the last 12 months and have always been able to find a thread that will cover any problems I have had however I now find myself needing to ask for advice.
My Mother has vascular dementia and has been resident at a dementia care home for the last 11 months and after a difficult start is now settled and quite happy. I am happy with the care she recieves.
When I visited today one of the senior carers ask to have a private chat with me. Mum has struck up a friendship with a new male resident. This was encouraged as she does not have many friends, she is a lot more chatty than the others and cannot tolerate them being unable to communicate as well, even though she says the same things over and over again. Mum does not come out of her room very often, is quite terratorial over it, but this new friendship meant she was coming out and joining in a bit more. He has been sitting in her room, they keep an eye of them and he is gererally just reading, however yesterday evening they were found in bed together with Mom on top of him and no clothes on her top half. The CH have report this to Protection (whatever that it) and are going to speak to her social worker. I am really worried about this as I would hate for Mum to be moved, she is funded. I don't blame this man as I am sure it is a 50/50 thing.
I would be grateful for any advice. Thank you.
My Mother has vascular dementia and has been resident at a dementia care home for the last 11 months and after a difficult start is now settled and quite happy. I am happy with the care she recieves.
When I visited today one of the senior carers ask to have a private chat with me. Mum has struck up a friendship with a new male resident. This was encouraged as she does not have many friends, she is a lot more chatty than the others and cannot tolerate them being unable to communicate as well, even though she says the same things over and over again. Mum does not come out of her room very often, is quite terratorial over it, but this new friendship meant she was coming out and joining in a bit more. He has been sitting in her room, they keep an eye of them and he is gererally just reading, however yesterday evening they were found in bed together with Mom on top of him and no clothes on her top half. The CH have report this to Protection (whatever that it) and are going to speak to her social worker. I am really worried about this as I would hate for Mum to be moved, she is funded. I don't blame this man as I am sure it is a 50/50 thing.
I would be grateful for any advice. Thank you.
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