Thankyou so much for all the suggestions. I have had the advice of our Solicitor over funding and we definately will not get any help due to our savings. We did not qualify for carers allowance for my Mum though she gets Attendance Allowance. Mum has financial help via direct payments and we have a carer in every morning to shower and dress her. They are a godsend but cost twice as much more than Social Services pay per hour so we can’t afford any more than an hour a day. I find dealing with Mums other needs is fine and she is doing well and to some extent is a relief from the growing upsets with my brother’s state. I don’t think my brother will accept anyone coming in to help him as currently he is able to take care of himself and is not recognising how poorly he is.
The main problem is trying to get medical help for my brother as at times (morning & evening are worse) as he is highly agitated and dillusional about taking medication. His memory is virtually non exsistant and he can forget something from 5 mins before plus mixing his past experiences with the ‘now’. The memory issues and more will probably be with us forever but he also has is a physical symptom that I am sure not normal even in dementia. I can only call them ‘wobbles’ were he seems to lose himself even more, his eyes roll or dart everywhere, he is unable to control his limbs and if he does speak he talks nonsense. These episodes last between 30 seconds and a couple of minutes and are always forwatrned by a sharp in take of breath. When he talks about them he says it’s like he is trying to make connections in his head but it just moves out of reach. He can have 5 - 10 of these episodes in an hour then non for a while.
Is this normal with dementia? I spoke to the Doctor about them and he is having more blood tests next week. He has had a blood & urine test every week but nothing seems evident. I hope these episodes are not mini strokes but don’t know how to get them medically checked other than keep asking the Doctor.
Any thoughts anyone.
Thanks
The main problem is trying to get medical help for my brother as at times (morning & evening are worse) as he is highly agitated and dillusional about taking medication. His memory is virtually non exsistant and he can forget something from 5 mins before plus mixing his past experiences with the ‘now’. The memory issues and more will probably be with us forever but he also has is a physical symptom that I am sure not normal even in dementia. I can only call them ‘wobbles’ were he seems to lose himself even more, his eyes roll or dart everywhere, he is unable to control his limbs and if he does speak he talks nonsense. These episodes last between 30 seconds and a couple of minutes and are always forwatrned by a sharp in take of breath. When he talks about them he says it’s like he is trying to make connections in his head but it just moves out of reach. He can have 5 - 10 of these episodes in an hour then non for a while.
Is this normal with dementia? I spoke to the Doctor about them and he is having more blood tests next week. He has had a blood & urine test every week but nothing seems evident. I hope these episodes are not mini strokes but don’t know how to get them medically checked other than keep asking the Doctor.
Any thoughts anyone.
Thanks