Hi
@Anna T.....your post echoes our experience of my FiL.....we have suspected he has at least the start of dementia for the last couple of years. He spent some time in hospital earlier this year, where he displayed some worrying behaviour, and was then discharged back to his own home. The Memory psych came out to assess him and said he had Delirium, which can present very much like dementia.....it often goes eventually but in the elderly it can be unpredictable and they never go back to normal (he's 90). Over the past couple of months he's a bit better, can hold a simple conversation, heat his microwave meals, and most of the time recognises his sons (tho sometime confuses their names). We still think he has underlying dementia.....but the thing is, if it's dementia or delirium it's just a name and neither will get better. So we've tried to step back from diagnosis.....it only seems to be useful for medication and council rate refund.....and just deal with how he is.
Is it possible your mum has something similar? Regardless of whether she has dementia or not I would think she is still eligible for carers etc from the council if she is not self-funding. You might have to stamp your feet a bit tho
This is a very cruel disease, and from what I read on the forum, the carers suffer the most in a way, because they are grieving for life and experiences lost, whereas many pwds are, maybe thankfully, unaware. Keep posting, there are lovely people on this forum who always have a listening ear