Hi My m-in-law who lives in an annex with myself and hubby, is going to be 90 this year and was diagnosed with Alzheimers over 3 years ago. Up till Xmas she was quite able to do most things but the last 6 months she has deteriorated. I do most things for her housework, cooking etc, doctors appts, shopping etc. Just recently she has started to not want to go out for shopping etc as she says she feels stupid. Today she was nearly in tears when we went shopping as she cannot remember what she usually gets, I check her cupboards before we leave but she is getting quite anxious going shopping to the point that recently she has started to say she is unwell to go shopping then to her best friend once a week. However later on in the day she is fine! My husband does not work so is at home for her but he finds it difficult and gets frustrated and she is still lucid alot of the time (though not so much these days) just getting alot more forgetful and on repeat and started to do unusual things and less able to look after herself in many ways. I have seen a more marked change since Christmas. Sorry re posted on a different forum not sure how to delete it on this one!
I work full time but we are lucky enough that as we now have a carers allowance from our local government (we are in Channel Islands) that I can consider dropping my hours and be home at about 2.30 instead of 5.30. I am wondering though, do you think its necessary at the moment, I'm in two minds whilst I'm happy to change my hours but at the moment I do most things anyway with her already in the time I have. Or should I wait about 6 months till its really needed. My hubby and I have not managed to get a holiday together this year as she was adamant she was not having carers/respite care so we have had to take separate holidays but I think that next year it will be different if she is worse and will not be given a choice! So basically just a bit of advice what would people recommend - reduce my hours now or leave it a bit.?
I work full time but we are lucky enough that as we now have a carers allowance from our local government (we are in Channel Islands) that I can consider dropping my hours and be home at about 2.30 instead of 5.30. I am wondering though, do you think its necessary at the moment, I'm in two minds whilst I'm happy to change my hours but at the moment I do most things anyway with her already in the time I have. Or should I wait about 6 months till its really needed. My hubby and I have not managed to get a holiday together this year as she was adamant she was not having carers/respite care so we have had to take separate holidays but I think that next year it will be different if she is worse and will not be given a choice! So basically just a bit of advice what would people recommend - reduce my hours now or leave it a bit.?
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