I care for my dad who lives with us and has mixed dementia.four years on and deterioration has begun quite quickly. recently he went out of the house around 5am.I drove round like a mad woman in my PJ's and eventually rang the police.who were fantastic.I contacted social services as instructed,ordered a gps tracker,door alarm and took dads keys from him.I am still shocked and upset.yesterday I got a phone call from safe guarding and the person was terrible.very blameful and made me feel like the worst daughter in the world.my dad makes his own choices and I try to support that even though they are not always in his own best interests.i am lucky if I can get him to wash/shower and change his clothes once a week.he refuses to have any input from any services.he is incontinent but removes his pull ups.not an ideal situation but its what it is and I try my best to manage.I also work full time,shame on me.I cant afford to stop work to look after dad.my partner and I pay for everything because my dad will not spend money on anything.he genuinely is frightened of not having enough and worries about it.now I have been informed that a team will be coming to assess dad,myself and partner and will be sending a community support team in even if dad refuses! I don't have a problem with being assessed. they need to make sure dad is being looked after properly. very emotional time at the moment.