Hello
@Martarita.
I was where you are nine years ago.
I understand why you have been so ill. It is not just the trauma of deciding on residential care for your husband, it is also the effect of the physical and emotional toll of years of being a primary carer.
I`ve lost count of the number of carers who become ill once the full responsibility of caring has eased. It`s almost as if, however distressed they are by their decision for residential care, they have permission to be ill, when approaching illness has been either covered up or ignored for years.
I do hope, with all I have, your husband settles well in his care home and once you have recovered your health and strength you will appreciate the benefit of having good people who share the caring with you.
The final years of my husband`s life in his care home were some of the best years we had since dementia was diagnosed. I can honestly say this time has left me with good memories after years of distress.
I hope for the same for you.