My Mum in law has dementia as is still living at home and is fiercely independent - which is great and has carers a couple of times a day - morning and evening.
She is regularly able to visit town - via taxis - on her own to meet with a couple of friends to have lunch at least 2 - 3 times a week. This is great for her and she really enjoys the visits.
However, there is a man which she knew some time back (only as a friend) who has taken to coming to her house and going with her on these trips where she pays for his meal and hers. (this can sometimes be around £25.00 a time - plus £10.00 each taxi)
This has resulted in her friends not wanting to sit with him as he is smelly and they believe not very nice.
One of her closest friends has contacted my husband to say that she is concerned.
Her taxi driver has also contacted my husband and advised us that this particular gentleman has done this before with another person - I believe this other person did not have dementia and in the end told him to go away.
My husband visited her when he knew this gentleman was there and took him to one side and said that he didn't want him to take advantage of his mum and that she was vulnerable. He said that he wouldn't stop him seeing her, but wanted him to pay his way and to cut the trips down as it seem that he was going with her every time she went into town.
My mum in law when asked said that she hadn't seen him as much so we thought that had done the trick.
However, once again it has been reported that he is repeatedly been seeing her.
Again my husband - just by chance visited her and he was there - he once again took him to one side and told him to stop visiting her and that if he wanted to go out with her he needs to pay his way.
We are not sure what we can do now - any advice would be very welcome.
Thanking you Janette
She is regularly able to visit town - via taxis - on her own to meet with a couple of friends to have lunch at least 2 - 3 times a week. This is great for her and she really enjoys the visits.
However, there is a man which she knew some time back (only as a friend) who has taken to coming to her house and going with her on these trips where she pays for his meal and hers. (this can sometimes be around £25.00 a time - plus £10.00 each taxi)
This has resulted in her friends not wanting to sit with him as he is smelly and they believe not very nice.
One of her closest friends has contacted my husband to say that she is concerned.
Her taxi driver has also contacted my husband and advised us that this particular gentleman has done this before with another person - I believe this other person did not have dementia and in the end told him to go away.
My husband visited her when he knew this gentleman was there and took him to one side and said that he didn't want him to take advantage of his mum and that she was vulnerable. He said that he wouldn't stop him seeing her, but wanted him to pay his way and to cut the trips down as it seem that he was going with her every time she went into town.
My mum in law when asked said that she hadn't seen him as much so we thought that had done the trick.
However, once again it has been reported that he is repeatedly been seeing her.
Again my husband - just by chance visited her and he was there - he once again took him to one side and told him to stop visiting her and that if he wanted to go out with her he needs to pay his way.
We are not sure what we can do now - any advice would be very welcome.
Thanking you Janette