Found dad on the floor this morning in a poor state, shivering and very cold so I called an ambulance. They came fairly quickly and could not find much wrong but they could not stand dad up as his legs would not work properly. Anyway fast forward to this afternoon after many hours in A&E and he has pneumonia.
They have kept him in for the night on intravienous antibiotics and physio are going to check out his walking ability tomorrow.
I feel awful as they would not allow me to stay the night. Dad is on a ward with three other men and it seems ok but I am very worried about dad in case he tries to get out of bed in the night and falls, I did make them very aware of this because he was concerned about finding the toilets. The doctor seemed to be quite dementia aware and said that they would try to get him home as soon as possible.
This is the first time that dad has been away from my control and it is scary as I have always kept him safe and I worry that others may not keep him safe like I have. Also I am worried that I may not be able to have him home again. I am being open here because he has cancer and dementia and possibly mobility problems (legs not working) I spoke to my brother about this tonight and he seems to think that we can manage between us, which actually means that I will be doing 90% of the caring. He is against a care home as it will cost money.
Poor dad is so compliant and I know his last words will be 'don't worry about me, I'm alright' and he has been so good today but I don't know if I will be able to carry on looking after him. He is in good spirits but I felt absolutely awful leaving him there. Will this affect his dementia, at the moment he is not too bad, will it get worse.
I feel that dad may be better off in a care home although I know that he would disagree with that. I also had to agree with a DNR for dad which is absolutely right as far as I am concerned but I know that dad would not agree with that at all as he thinks that he is going to live forever.
I will see what tomorrow brings.
They have kept him in for the night on intravienous antibiotics and physio are going to check out his walking ability tomorrow.
I feel awful as they would not allow me to stay the night. Dad is on a ward with three other men and it seems ok but I am very worried about dad in case he tries to get out of bed in the night and falls, I did make them very aware of this because he was concerned about finding the toilets. The doctor seemed to be quite dementia aware and said that they would try to get him home as soon as possible.
This is the first time that dad has been away from my control and it is scary as I have always kept him safe and I worry that others may not keep him safe like I have. Also I am worried that I may not be able to have him home again. I am being open here because he has cancer and dementia and possibly mobility problems (legs not working) I spoke to my brother about this tonight and he seems to think that we can manage between us, which actually means that I will be doing 90% of the caring. He is against a care home as it will cost money.
Poor dad is so compliant and I know his last words will be 'don't worry about me, I'm alright' and he has been so good today but I don't know if I will be able to carry on looking after him. He is in good spirits but I felt absolutely awful leaving him there. Will this affect his dementia, at the moment he is not too bad, will it get worse.
I feel that dad may be better off in a care home although I know that he would disagree with that. I also had to agree with a DNR for dad which is absolutely right as far as I am concerned but I know that dad would not agree with that at all as he thinks that he is going to live forever.
I will see what tomorrow brings.
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