This is a BIG learning curve........
I've read on TP about how infection can affect dementia...I'm living through this now.
Eric does not display the "usual" signs of infection...although the GP is very worried about his chest..which is full of fluid and crackles..and he becomes breathless on exertion. He does not have a high temperature. But his feet are becoming puffy and swollen.
The CPN came out thisafternoon and explained that EVEN THE SMALLEST INFECTION in dementia patients can manifest itself in different ways.This can show itself as a dramatic change. And Eric has a big...chronic infection...
But he "says" he feels ok. I'm trying to understand....he does not realise that the infection is attacking his weakest points...in this case his mobility. He's had moments of confusion...and doesn't understand that he's ill...
In some people this could cause aggression, mega confusion,wandering....Eric is none of these. He wants to sit quietly in his own home and carry on with his "normal" routine...and his "nurse wife"..as I am now termed...(wish I'd been a hairdresser...
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I can't deny him this. He has refused the hospital bed.
OT came in to assess thismorning...(Via the Rapid Response Team who have been brilliant)
And came back later thisafternoon with a perch stool for the kitchen...to enable him to still make tea...he can't stand for long..a raised loo seat.
They've ordered a seat for the shower..and are also ordering us a device to go under the mattress which will raise the head of the bed into an upright position...so that Eric is sitting upright before he gets out of bed.
I also have an emergency number to ring...
And have been advised to dial 999 if he falls again....
I'm going to have a Lifeline Alarm installed..I press a button and they organise the help.
Yesterday morning's 999 call was farcical...how can you be expected to cope with someone who has fallen in the shower...cold, wet, naked, confused and distressed....only to be told that a nurse will ring you back in 5 minutes...which she did...and asked me the same questions I'd already answered..and told me to reassure Eric and not to try to get him up off the floor on my own. I tried that...but in the end had to help him because I couldn't watch him struggling. It took all my strength..and my back and shoulders are feeling the effects today.
Apparently if you have a lifeline alarm you have a bit of priority.
So first job tomorrow.....
There are loads of lovely people who have responded to this thread who I hardly know...and many sensible suggestions from you all.
Can I ask you to bear with me? Am hoping things settle down for a day or two and I will be able to give more time.
A big thanks to all for being here.....last night I was thinking of changing my signature...
Today I live to fight another day.....
Love gigi xx