We had a lady look at Margaret's swallowing last week but the lack of eating has come on since then. After the physio has called today I shall be contacting the GP surgery again. We had a home visit a fortnight ago because I was convinced that Margaret had had another mini stroke. He did not think so but I am not convinced. We have no continuity with Gp's and Margaret has only seen the local GP twice in over 10 years. Since the Vascular Dementia diagnosis it has been a case of get on with it because nothing can be done! Thank you for your thoughts. jumbo
You could try high calorie, home made soups and smoothies. I make soup for my mum with lots of vegetables, chicken and lentils (rich in iron and protein). I then blend them with huge spoonfuls of mayonnaise which adds to the calories. Sometimes I break up bits of spaghetti for carbohydrates or granary bread for roughage. It all gets blended. When my mum won't eat properly I put soup in a mug instead of a bowl.
Fresuben or other high cal drinks really help, a GP should prescribe them but you can buy them without a prescription.
Otherwise, make sure she drinks lots of fluid and try offering food little and often. Calories are more important than actual nutrition. Also, if she refuses, don't respond, just pretend to not notice and try again after a few minutes. Sometimes it takes a bit of cunning and patience.
Don't wait for the physio, ask the GP practice to visit at home and check for infection you can ask for the high calorie drinks at the same time.
Vascular dementia does go in plateaus and sudden drops but it may be that she's sickening for something. Or, as you suspected a TIA. If you can keep calories up one way or another and keep moving physically (even if only small stuff), it helps to maintain some quality of life and mobility.
Not eating can become a bit of a viscous cycle - of stomach shrinking, weakness and less mobility. I've seen it a few times with my mum now but we've managed to recuperate with a bit of focus on calories and movement.
Best of luck with it all - it's worrying isn't it.