Hello everyone!
My father-in-law (79) has advanced dementia, he was diagnosed in 2011, so it has been for a long time. He currently lives with my mother-in-law, who is 78. She was caring about him all these years, but it became impossible lately.
In August he went to the care home for 3 weeks, because my mother-in-law had an emotional breakdown. We called social worker, she organised a care worker to come in the morning for half an hour and half an hour in the evening, which was not enough. The care worker came too late in the morning and too early in the evening. They also sent a financial assessment team to evaluate his assets and he was estimated as a full cost.
He was only estimated as a full cost, because he owns a small commercial property (value of 50 000GBP), and he doesn't have any other money. I know we left it till late, but now my father-in-law really needs to go to the care home. He is incontinent, and my mother-in-law can't take care of him anymore. We asked the council to disregard the commercial property until the moment we will be able to sell it, however, they said that it is not the business (although he gets a small rent from it), and that's why refused to disregards.
We feel trapped and let down by the system. I am just wondering if anyone had the same situation and what did you do/recommend to do?
My father-in-law (79) has advanced dementia, he was diagnosed in 2011, so it has been for a long time. He currently lives with my mother-in-law, who is 78. She was caring about him all these years, but it became impossible lately.
In August he went to the care home for 3 weeks, because my mother-in-law had an emotional breakdown. We called social worker, she organised a care worker to come in the morning for half an hour and half an hour in the evening, which was not enough. The care worker came too late in the morning and too early in the evening. They also sent a financial assessment team to evaluate his assets and he was estimated as a full cost.
He was only estimated as a full cost, because he owns a small commercial property (value of 50 000GBP), and he doesn't have any other money. I know we left it till late, but now my father-in-law really needs to go to the care home. He is incontinent, and my mother-in-law can't take care of him anymore. We asked the council to disregard the commercial property until the moment we will be able to sell it, however, they said that it is not the business (although he gets a small rent from it), and that's why refused to disregards.
We feel trapped and let down by the system. I am just wondering if anyone had the same situation and what did you do/recommend to do?