Hi, sorry, I’m just so blooming tired. Stool results tomorrow, bloods on Friday. Isn’t it always the way ... eventually get the appointment & things start to get better.
I’m not so bad today. I’ve managed to eat a decent dinner & so far .... it’s ok
On to other things .... life ... the universe ... what happens now ....
I’ve been to look at a static caravan ... alternative to the streets lol. The van is lovely. The site is not for me. Too commercial. Too much going on.
So. I’ve spoken to a few friends. All have just agreed with me. Or, that’s how it feels. One friend told me I was nuts. But that’s who she is.
I’m curious as to what you think. I don’t want sympathetic, well meaning agreement. I want the truth. How crazy is this ....
Original plan
Sell the house. Buy a second hand static caravan on a site near to where I am now. This would mean I could come here, visit brother & eldest. Store (hopefully safe) some “stuff”. It can also be a holiday home for the family to use. Also means my stuff is around for anyone to rummage through ... if they felt the urge
Upgrade Poppet & travel about seeing friends for a night or longer. Park up solo when I feel the need, or on a site if I wanted a few days people watching
Help towards the deposit for youngest & have a room in bricks n mortar. I can spend real time with him & fiancé & help out with the new baby.
Everyone I’ve said this to said “yes”
Revised plan
Static caravan site is not for me.
Upgrade Poppet, but a bit more. Travel about, but spend site fees of static van all over seems more sensible. I can move on if the neighbours are too noisy
Help youngest a bit more, sort of shared home for 10??? Years till they are more sorted (much discussion needed).
I get a room that’s mine. A garden I can mess with. One day they buy me out & I move on.
Advantages ... I have somewhere I can leave my stuff, know it’s safe. I get to see lots of them, but I can go see friends when I need the space (or they do). I don’t have massive bills, I can just work 2 or 3 days to pay for holidays etc
Disadvantages ... living with the children. Tbh. Youngest is easy to get along with. He’s no push over, but we are both
very honest. Ive said I’m not doing this to be a permanent baby sitter. I will not be there 24/7, or 52/weeks a year. I will be going off regular.
My ideal wouId be to spend a week or 3 with them, then go away for a weekend or week (or longer). We all get space
I’m not going to promise to go along with what you say.... I’m just looking for the things I might not have thought of
Please bear in mind. I don’t care much for “things”. I didn’t have this money yesterday, so I won’t miss it tomorrow. I know it’s a risk & accept that. His fiancé is making him happy. That’s a first. The rest of the family (brother excluded) are only interested in how much they can get & have no interest in me & had even less interest in my Mum ... so they can go take a long walk off a short pier
All I want now is the time to go see friends, the people I’d like to have been able to spend time with, but couldn’t. I want to sit & read. Watch the sun rise or set. Walk Pooch & watch the waves break on the shore. A holiday or 3 somewhere hot, with a pool & sandy beaches
Wherever I end up, I’m fairly confident I can find a way of earning enough to exist, if not thrive. Money never was my god, I’ve only ever wanted enough to pay the bills
So .... please tell me how crazy I am .., be honest, but not too brutal.