Dad's now been at his nursing home for 6 weeks or so and we're pleased at the care he's getting, despite him falling a couple of times and scaring us all!
HOWEVER my Mum is 'not getting it' as to the severity of Dad's illness (vas. dementia with Lewy Bodies) and is already talking of taking him home at some point....she's saying that his decline is mainly due to his hating where he is and that she (with help) could give him better 1-to-1 care.
She seems to have forgotten why he was admitted in the first place - he hated his home too, became doubly incontinent, didn't sleep at night and of course suffers with hallucinations/delusions as well as being very unsteady on his feet.
It's fair enough that we could get carers in 4 times a day to see to his needs, but that leaves the awful nights...
She's wearing me out! Just because Dad had a fairly 'good' and lucid week she thinks that we should even bring him home for a 'visit' next week. She's wearing herself out too and running at 100mph with different solutions and I can't keep up!
I've told her that although her motives are great it just wouldn't be practical or even fair to Dad.
What can I do? I was even thinking of getting a doctor to explain to her the downsides of what she intends. Help!
HOWEVER my Mum is 'not getting it' as to the severity of Dad's illness (vas. dementia with Lewy Bodies) and is already talking of taking him home at some point....she's saying that his decline is mainly due to his hating where he is and that she (with help) could give him better 1-to-1 care.
She seems to have forgotten why he was admitted in the first place - he hated his home too, became doubly incontinent, didn't sleep at night and of course suffers with hallucinations/delusions as well as being very unsteady on his feet.
It's fair enough that we could get carers in 4 times a day to see to his needs, but that leaves the awful nights...
She's wearing me out! Just because Dad had a fairly 'good' and lucid week she thinks that we should even bring him home for a 'visit' next week. She's wearing herself out too and running at 100mph with different solutions and I can't keep up!
I've told her that although her motives are great it just wouldn't be practical or even fair to Dad.
What can I do? I was even thinking of getting a doctor to explain to her the downsides of what she intends. Help!