Hi all
Been away on holiday for 2 weeks and has was not happy with care home m/in/law stayed in last year found another home for respite some 12 miles away.
The manageress of the home is a lovely person who fully understands the pressures of caring for a relative with dementia as she cared for her dad, living with her for 3 years with the illness. The home came highly reccomended from people who see what goes on in care homes that we don't see.
We went to collect m/in/law on saturday and she refused to come home with us she had enjoyed herself so much there, as there had been a misunderstanding with the collection day it was agreed that she would remain there till monday and we were invited to lunch on the monday to give the staff time to prepare m/in/law for coming home, when we arrived monday staff said m/in/law was still adamant she wasn't coming home with us as she lived there and it was her home. This proved to us that the home was really good as previously at the other home she couldn't wait to leave. She did leave quietly with us after lunch but we have now come to the decision that a permanent place once available would be beneficial to m/in/law as we are not always able to give her the stimulation and stability she now needs. It pleased us so much that she wanted to stay as we now know that when a place becomes available we will not feel like we are dumping her just because we have had enough. The home has a long waiting list but is building new rooms to be finished next year. Whilst we would have liked to have cared for m/in/law till the end it has been a strain for the last 16 months and we now feel that this home will be the best place where we can be happy that she will be happy.
Incidently, the last home she was in is now under investigation for neglect so it pays to go with your own instincts when looking for a good care home.
Jan
Been away on holiday for 2 weeks and has was not happy with care home m/in/law stayed in last year found another home for respite some 12 miles away.
The manageress of the home is a lovely person who fully understands the pressures of caring for a relative with dementia as she cared for her dad, living with her for 3 years with the illness. The home came highly reccomended from people who see what goes on in care homes that we don't see.
We went to collect m/in/law on saturday and she refused to come home with us she had enjoyed herself so much there, as there had been a misunderstanding with the collection day it was agreed that she would remain there till monday and we were invited to lunch on the monday to give the staff time to prepare m/in/law for coming home, when we arrived monday staff said m/in/law was still adamant she wasn't coming home with us as she lived there and it was her home. This proved to us that the home was really good as previously at the other home she couldn't wait to leave. She did leave quietly with us after lunch but we have now come to the decision that a permanent place once available would be beneficial to m/in/law as we are not always able to give her the stimulation and stability she now needs. It pleased us so much that she wanted to stay as we now know that when a place becomes available we will not feel like we are dumping her just because we have had enough. The home has a long waiting list but is building new rooms to be finished next year. Whilst we would have liked to have cared for m/in/law till the end it has been a strain for the last 16 months and we now feel that this home will be the best place where we can be happy that she will be happy.
Incidently, the last home she was in is now under investigation for neglect so it pays to go with your own instincts when looking for a good care home.
Jan