hi
@Nessiemoo
I wonder whether your dad has requested an assessment of your mum's care needs from their Local Authority Adult Services, as this is one way of accessing support - your mum has a right to this assessment and your dad has a right to a carer's assessment
from this might come some home care visits, a sitter to be with your mum for a few hours, day care and respite, plus an OT to com e and look at their home to suggest aids and adaptions to help them both - ask about the carephone system as this provided my dad with an alarm button, which he wore as a pendant, and links to the landline so that an operator speaks to your mum if she presses the button and is then also able to call your dad/you/emergency services - dad also had a door sensor which triggered a call if he left the door open for more than a few seconds
if your mum has savings above £23250 she will fund any care - your dad's finances are not taken into account in a financial assessment for her care fees - and their marital home is disregarded (so there's no question of having to sell it)
you may well find something useful in the local services listing of the main AS site
https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/info/...1181.1503062667-213745934.1462100281#!/search
I did find that when I organised day care for my dad he had to be referred by his GP or Social Services
your mum may not be too keen on any support you try to put place - maybe sneak her to a day centre, saying it's a nice place for a cuppa and cake, maybe your dad could go with her the first time, then drop her off the second, then organise transport ... - as the time is as much for your dad to recuperate and have a chance to do something he wants to do (which is really important), you may have to be 'cruel to be kind'
best wishes
PS the staff at dad's day care home were brilliant with him and the others there - they got to know him and his ways so they could distract him if he had an emotional wobble - so don't worry too much about your mum going to a center; the staff are well used to looking out for first timers and helping them settle - and, being 'hard' even if she does have a few tears, you will know that she is safe, monitored, well fed and entertained - your dad counts equally and he needs a break,