Hi postigen, yes it gets better. My oh has been in a lovely care home nearly 3 months. Its still early days for me and yes its still very odd. However I have gone from being exhausted and irritable to reasonably normal if still somewhat sad and a bit lonely but rebuilding a life takes time. But you know what - I love visiting him every day, I look forward to it, its a joy. He is a bit up and down, sometimes sleepy but he is safe, loves the company, watches the carers all the time, loves the music they play (cds I took in which got other family to take some in), laughs a lot, is pleased to see me and is ok when I leave him - I just say I am going to see mom (also in a care home with Alzheimer's), going to work etc. I am very fortunate and I hope you are too with the way its gone. I feel guilty its gone so well. Is it a perfect home - no - nowhere is. Is it better than him being at home - yes without doubt. I really hope it goes well for you. You are his voice, the person who cares more than anyone else, its an act of love to make sure he gets the best possible care.