Thank you Sam.
OK so I'll trump everyone with my darkest book secret. I have two copies of all my favourites (three if you include my kindle copy). I have one copy in the bookcase for tidy reading and a best copy stored away unread, just because.... I don't think I've told a soul that one so you'll all have to keep my secret. xxx
That is indeed a very dark secret Lavender! Are you going to share some of these very precious favourites with us?!
I have decided that for the remaining time mum is in hospital (she's due to be brought home by ambulance next Monday morning - but first the hospital has to do a risk assessment because we have a step up into the house - honest, I didn't make that up!), I need to spend less time on the ward or just look away. In my view the care is just not good. Last night mum said she was desperate for the loo, but because they had just brought the food round, they weren't allowed to toilet anyone in the bay, so mum had to suffer until everyone finished eating, then was allowed on the commode. And yet today, when they put mum's lunch in front of her and I attempted to start helping her to eat it, we had to endure the cleaning lady (nice as she is) banging and crashing right next to us, removing normal and 'nasty' waste, spraying chemicals, and waving her mop around. None of it seems to make any sense to me. Poor mum is unable to communicate to the staff that she needs the toilet, so she sits in soiled pads until either I spot them or the staff do a round of checks which, yes you've guessed it, isn't very often. Once today I found mum in a wet pad, well actually the whole bed was wet, and later she needed a no 2, but by the time they responded .... And from what I saw, they are not cleaning her up that well afterwards. For the next three days our usual carer will be spending a few hours with mum at the hospital so I'm going to get her to help me check mum over to make sure she's clean with no sore bits. I'll also see if we can get her onto a chair and into the shower room for a good wash and shampoo.
I feel so sorry for those people who cannot speak up for themselves and have no one to do so for them. I'm really sorry if it seems like I'm moaning about the NHS. It's a fabulous thing, to get all this medical care 'free', but when the care isn't up to scratch, it's very, very worrying.
I will meet our live in carer on Sunday, the day before mum arrives home. Oh, and I've also been told family are not allowed to travel in the ambulance from the hospital back to home. Is it me?!