Marnie I'm so sorry and disgusted. I know nursing staff are short handed, but your mum needing a drink is a basic requirement and plain neglect. Your mum deserves better so do you. You deserve to feel your mum is being well cared for when you aren't right by her side.
HD and Jorgie you're both very photogenic. I could shatter a camera lense!
Rosy I hope your mum has gained a little strength and is managing to eat a little more. Thinking about both of you.
I went in to see mum yesterday. It was not a great visit, but I may have to take responsibility for it. I may have over taxed her as we were playing dog dominoes (child's version with pictures of dogs rather than dots so easier) for a bit. Maybe it was too much, when it came to tea time and time for me to leave she flipped demanding to leave with me and sobbing. Mum refused to go into the dining room and refused to eat. It was suggested that I could sit in one of the lounge with her whilst she ate, she just shouted at the staff about how she wasn't eating there. The upshot was me staying until she calmed down, I left around 8pm. Mum reminded me how difficult she can be, she threw all the familiar accusations at me about abandoning her which I hadn't heard in weeks. Not things I particularly wanted to hear again, but as I say maybe it was my fault for over taxing or over stimulating her.
Within an hour of my getting home the ward rang mum had stumbled and slid down the wall in the dining room banging her head. A doctor was checking her over and mum was moaning as seeing the doctor was a waste of time as she was fine. Then the nurse made a mistake. He told me it was such a shame mum had taken this tumble as she had had such a good day up to then. I think my first word was hardly then I told him how difficult she had been.
This morning I called and as it happens got one of the deputy manager. Mum's OK, she slept well, has been assisted with showering and is pottering about. That's good, but since she is a deputy manager I told her I was unhappy about being told rubbish last night. Her first suggestion was maybe he meant she had had a good morning. So say that. Then she suggested I should tell the staff if mum was having a bad time. I told her numerous staff were aware she wasn't at her best and that she had refused her evening meal as she was agitated. At that point she ran out of excuses and said she would speak to the staff. I told her I don't want to make a huge issue out of it, but I don't want to be told inaccurate information just because it's what I'd want to hear.
As to PC Nursing Home I spoke with them yesterday. They rang the family of the person ahead of mum on the waiting list to see whether they were still interested in placing their family member in PC, but hadn't heard back from them so we are still waiting to see what happens. Quite ironic, they took mum off their waiting list for no reason, yet the family of this other person aren't getting back to them, but they have to be given a chance to do so. Huge sigh!!!
To finish my post on a lighter note we spent a while yesterday looking for a screw driver. Mum wanted it to take the locks off doors. Just shows mum still has some planning ability left. Disable the locks and get out. Trust mum. X