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Morning all.
Annasor, welcome to TP
Lavender, so pleased you felt encouraged by visiting the home. How the SW feels your mum doesn't qualify for a challenging behaviour placement beggars belief. Yep, all comes down to money. Yet again. Wishing you strength to continue fighting the good fight on your mum's behalf. Hug. X
Worrier. You must be wrung out. I haven't the mojo to battle now, if mum was here I'd get the juice but for my own affairs..., that fighting muscle a bit flaccid right now. Fair play to you, but I do hope you can get rest, it's been relentless for you.
Rosy, Marnie, wishing you continued 'calm' (hopefully, hopefully that was a one off, Marnie).
Polly and everyone else, hugs and support winging its way to you. Xxx
(((Jorgie)))
Annasor, welcome to TP
Lavender, so pleased you felt encouraged by visiting the home. How the SW feels your mum doesn't qualify for a challenging behaviour placement beggars belief. Yep, all comes down to money. Yet again. Wishing you strength to continue fighting the good fight on your mum's behalf. Hug. X
Worrier. You must be wrung out. I haven't the mojo to battle now, if mum was here I'd get the juice but for my own affairs..., that fighting muscle a bit flaccid right now. Fair play to you, but I do hope you can get rest, it's been relentless for you.
Rosy, Marnie, wishing you continued 'calm' (hopefully, hopefully that was a one off, Marnie).
Polly and everyone else, hugs and support winging its way to you. Xxx
(((Jorgie)))
Morning all.
Annasor, welcome to TP
Lavender, so pleased you felt encouraged by visiting the home. How the SW feels your mum doesn't qualify for a challenging behaviour placement beggars belief. Yep, all comes down to money. Yet again. Wishing you strength to continue fighting the good fight on your mum's behalf. Hug. X
Worrier. You must be wrung out. I haven't the mojo to battle now, if mum was here I'd get the juice but for my own affairs..., that fighting muscle a bit flaccid right now. Fair play to you, but I do hope you can get rest, it's been relentless for you.
Rosy, Marnie, wishing you continued 'calm' (hopefully, hopefully that was a one off, Marnie).
Polly and everyone else, hugs and support winging its way to you. Xxx
LadyA, dry and warm here
(((Jorgie)))
Annasor, welcome to TP
Lavender, so pleased you felt encouraged by visiting the home. How the SW feels your mum doesn't qualify for a challenging behaviour placement beggars belief. Yep, all comes down to money. Yet again. Wishing you strength to continue fighting the good fight on your mum's behalf. Hug. X
Worrier. You must be wrung out. I haven't the mojo to battle now, if mum was here I'd get the juice but for my own affairs..., that fighting muscle a bit flaccid right now. Fair play to you, but I do hope you can get rest, it's been relentless for you.
Rosy, Marnie, wishing you continued 'calm' (hopefully, hopefully that was a one off, Marnie).
Polly and everyone else, hugs and support winging its way to you. Xxx
LadyA, dry and warm here
(((Jorgie)))
Here we go again. Mum is now lying in front for the kitchen door blocking access, she wants the numbers???? More later. X
Thanks for the Hugs; they came at just the right time to bolster my dwindling reserves of tongue biting It's a concern when she's sleeping so much, in that she's not drinking or eating, but BOY! She can make up for the silence on an awake day Asked her about jacket potato for dinner & her eyes lit up "oh yes! That would be nice!" then when I put the plate in front of her, she called it "a bloody mess" & told me not to give her "any more of that rubbish" in such a way that left you feeling you'd better comply if you valued your kneecaps I swear she's secretly under cover Mafiosa so making sure there are no horses heads in my bed
It's currently dull here & the trees are moving a good bit ... sounds about right for the start of school holidays. Perhaps I'll leave Mum's ears for a while, then she won't be able to hear the kids playing out front so can't moan about it
Hope I'm not as much of a grouse when I get older
Wishing you all Peaceful times...x
It's a concern when she's sleeping so much, in that she's not drinking or eating, but BOY! She can make up for the silence on an awake day Asked her about jacket potato for dinner & her eyes lit up "oh yes! That would be nice!" then when I put the plate in front of her, she called it "a bloody mess" & told me not to give her "any more of that rubbish" in such a way that left you feeling you'd better comply if you valued your kneecaps I swear she's secretly under cover Mafiosa so making sure there are no horses heads in my bed It's currently dull here & the trees are moving a good bit ... sounds about right for the start of school holidays. Perhaps I'll leave Mum's ears for a while, then she won't be able to hear the kids playing out front so can't moan about it
Hope I'm not as much of a grouse when I get older
Wishing you all Peaceful times...x
Hi there hope it's been a good day for everyone.
I went in to see mum yesterday afternoon armed with extras.
The nurse I spoke to said mum had put herself to the floor blocking the kitchen door and was refusing any encouragement to move. She said mum had been on about wanting the numbers, but couldn't explain herself.
Mum knows the ward is locked rather than keypadded, she's tried to negotiate the keys off the staff pretty frequently, but the kitchen door had a keypad. I wonder she wanted to go into the kitchen and laid down blocking the door on the basis that if she couldn't go in there no one could. Staff tried writing numbers for mum, but they were rejected.
As I said I took extras in. Lottery tickets as they have numbers and a book of raffle tickets. I also took chocolate in as she has a sweet tooth and might be bribeable with chocolate, it might just get her back on her feet when other encouragement fails.
Mum was really calm when I arrived and we had a nice sit in the garden. There were some tears and wanting to go, but it was half hearted at most. When mum is in one of these pleasant moods I almost think we'd cope back home, but that mood never lasts and so I'm not quite daft enough to act on the thought.
There was a little incident whilst I was there. T, a gentleman who had been on the ward as long as mum wandered over to us and tried to sit with us. Mum told him to move along, he swore in reply and that was it, a real flash of temper from my mum. She was on her feet and heading for him in a flash. Thankfully she listened when I told her to stop.
Once T had gone she told me she had attacked T once before and intended to do so again, but making a proper job of it next time. Somehow I don't doubt her. We also had a chat about her delta frame. She's made it abundantly clear she won't use it. Certainly when the staff try to encourage her she gets very ratty indeed.
I haven't been in today, I have called though, she's had a good day, only putting herself to the floor once. She's had a sit in the garden and she's had her nails painted and she's in a good humour. Yes!!!!! X
I went in to see mum yesterday afternoon armed with extras.
The nurse I spoke to said mum had put herself to the floor blocking the kitchen door and was refusing any encouragement to move. She said mum had been on about wanting the numbers, but couldn't explain herself.
Mum knows the ward is locked rather than keypadded, she's tried to negotiate the keys off the staff pretty frequently, but the kitchen door had a keypad. I wonder she wanted to go into the kitchen and laid down blocking the door on the basis that if she couldn't go in there no one could. Staff tried writing numbers for mum, but they were rejected.
As I said I took extras in. Lottery tickets as they have numbers and a book of raffle tickets. I also took chocolate in as she has a sweet tooth and might be bribeable with chocolate, it might just get her back on her feet when other encouragement fails.
Mum was really calm when I arrived and we had a nice sit in the garden. There were some tears and wanting to go, but it was half hearted at most. When mum is in one of these pleasant moods I almost think we'd cope back home, but that mood never lasts and so I'm not quite daft enough to act on the thought.
There was a little incident whilst I was there. T, a gentleman who had been on the ward as long as mum wandered over to us and tried to sit with us. Mum told him to move along, he swore in reply and that was it, a real flash of temper from my mum. She was on her feet and heading for him in a flash. Thankfully she listened when I told her to stop.
Once T had gone she told me she had attacked T once before and intended to do so again, but making a proper job of it next time. Somehow I don't doubt her. We also had a chat about her delta frame. She's made it abundantly clear she won't use it. Certainly when the staff try to encourage her she gets very ratty indeed.
I haven't been in today, I have called though, she's had a good day, only putting herself to the floor once. She's had a sit in the garden and she's had her nails painted and she's in a good humour. Yes!!!!! X
Morning Ladies,
Hope the weekend was kind to you all. Lavender I have to have a giggle at your Mum she is determined and if we didn't know better you wouldn't believe she had dementia but all her faculties with her planning and determination for an escape route.
Its a scorcher today already here lets hope its going to be a good week.
Enjoy if you have the sunshine
Hope the weekend was kind to you all. Lavender I have to have a giggle at your Mum she is determined and if we didn't know better you wouldn't believe she had dementia but all her faculties with her planning and determination for an escape route.
Its a scorcher today already here lets hope its going to be a good week.
Enjoy if you have the sunshine
Imagine how it is for me Jorgie. I have to keep my face straight in front of her and the staff in case they don't see the funny side. There are times I want to howl with laughter at her inventiveness!
Months ago when mum went into MH hospital and was first under section one of the nursing staff said if she didn't know my mum had dementia she would never have guessed as mum masks it very well. The same holds true now in some ways. One of the staff on her current ward said he hoped to be as fiesty as she is when he gets to her age. I can see his point, but it doesn't stop me wanting to dial it down a bit! x
There are times I want to howl with laughter at her inventiveness! Months ago when mum went into MH hospital and was first under section one of the nursing staff said if she didn't know my mum had dementia she would never have guessed as mum masks it very well. The same holds true now in some ways. One of the staff on her current ward said he hoped to be as fiesty as she is when he gets to her age. I can see his point, but it doesn't stop me wanting to dial it down a bit! x
Hi Everyone hope all is well with you all. I have been nursing a migraine for the last couple of days, so not doing much and keeping out of the sun.
We are suppose to be having thunderstorms later, it may cool everything down. I don't know wishing for the sun then wishing for the rain, never happy
We are suppose to be having thunderstorms later, it may cool everything down. I don't know wishing for the sun then wishing for the rain, never happy
Jorgie hope the migraine is better, I'm really lucky never suffered from them but my late husband use to have terrible one's as did his Mum so I know how awful they can be.
Lavender your Mum just never ceases to amaze me
I got a shock with my Mum last night 2am in the morning to be precise.I sleep with Mum as she can't get in or out of bed alone and would fall if she attempted it. Mum has several trips to the loo throughout the night and I always know as she fidgety for a few mins first but early this morning she was pulling down her knickers and pad and starting to wee in the bed,needless to say I've never moved so quick in my life lifting Mum out of bed straight onto the commode. Hope it was a one Of!! Strange thing is Mum doesn't know what to do when we go to the toilet, sometimes takes me 5mins to get her to pull down her knickers.
Glorious day here we went singing yesterday and also today at the fire station......highlight of my week.....for obvious reasons. There's something about firemen
Hope everybody is enjoying the sunshine another scorcher here....can you believe it Mum was still cold....
Lavender your Mum just never ceases to amaze me
I got a shock with my Mum last night 2am in the morning to be precise.I sleep with Mum as she can't get in or out of bed alone and would fall if she attempted it. Mum has several trips to the loo throughout the night and I always know as she fidgety for a few mins first but early this morning she was pulling down her knickers and pad and starting to wee in the bed,needless to say I've never moved so quick in my life lifting Mum out of bed straight onto the commode. Hope it was a one Of!! Strange thing is Mum doesn't know what to do when we go to the toilet, sometimes takes me 5mins to get her to pull down her knickers.
Glorious day here we went singing yesterday and also today at the fire station......highlight of my week.....for obvious reasons. There's something about firemen
Hope everybody is enjoying the sunshine another scorcher here....can you believe it Mum was still cold....
Oh wow Rosy, my fingers are crossed that it was just a one off for your mum. Glad about the eye candy!
Jorgie hope you've felt a bit better today.
Hope everyone else has been OK today. Xxx
Jorgie hope you've felt a bit better today.
Hope everyone else has been OK today. Xxx
Morning Everyone,
Feeling a lot better this morning but still got a light headache, not feeling sickly though.
Hope it eases before weekend SIL and I are heading to the Emerald Isles for two nights break, got a really cheap deal. Hopefully meeting up with Molly, then Spain in eight weeks. It's all go at the moment but need the breaks getting stuck in a rut.
If anyone is free would love to meet up.
Hope your all have a good day, we are expecting a thunderstorm here but were last night and nothing emerged. x
Feeling a lot better this morning but still got a light headache, not feeling sickly though.
Hope it eases before weekend SIL and I are heading to the Emerald Isles for two nights break, got a really cheap deal. Hopefully meeting up with Molly, then Spain in eight weeks.
It's all go at the moment but need the breaks getting stuck in a rut.If anyone is free would love to meet up.
Hope your all have a good day, we are expecting a thunderstorm here but were last night and nothing emerged. x
Morning.
I've just spoken to the ward and mum's calm so far today. The nurse I've just spoken to asked me if I had mum's name down for PC nursing home (my first choice). I've already told them more than once she is number one on their waiting list. The nurse said she will ring them and see where they are up to. For heavens sake number one is number one. As sad as it is it basically means we are waiting for someone to pass away for a vacancy to come up. Surely there's no way for PC to judge that!
The nurse has yet again told me that the man with Hutchinsons takes precidence over my mum for the placement in KP nursing home as his illness is what the home particularly specialises in. KP was my second choice and is the one with a vacancy now. The home was my second choice, but having heard some good things about it I've warmed to it. The nurse said I shouldn't be getting my hopes up.
To be honest I'm fed up with them. They've been happy to send mum almost anywhere because it suited them, but now she might have a bed in a suitable home they aren't happy. I understand their reasoning, it just doesn't please me as it feels like they are treating mum as a second class citizen. Anyhows I told the nurse that the social worker has told me that KP have stated that they do not mind whether they get mum or the man. I've also pointed out that the social worker has told me that the ward has no influence over who gets the bed and that it comes down to who gets their funding in place first. Also that I'm told mum's paperwork will be less complex than his so we stand a good chance of the bed going to to mum.
I really and truly hate all this. I hate seeing that man we are in competition with when I go onto the ward and now I feel I have a bit of a dilemma. Part of me is tempted to make a fuss about the ward making it plain they don't want mum to have the bed when I think they should at least to my face appear to be impartial. The other part thinks I liked PC better, would it be such a terrible thing if mum waited for a bed there. As number one on the list it cannot be long to wait surely. PC has a really good activities programme, KP less so. Mum of old would have enjoyed the activities, mum now only might enjoy the activities. How I wish this were done with and that mum were in PC or KP and settled.
I've just spoken to the ward and mum's calm so far today. The nurse I've just spoken to asked me if I had mum's name down for PC nursing home (my first choice). I've already told them more than once she is number one on their waiting list. The nurse said she will ring them and see where they are up to. For heavens sake number one is number one. As sad as it is it basically means we are waiting for someone to pass away for a vacancy to come up. Surely there's no way for PC to judge that!
The nurse has yet again told me that the man with Hutchinsons takes precidence over my mum for the placement in KP nursing home as his illness is what the home particularly specialises in. KP was my second choice and is the one with a vacancy now. The home was my second choice, but having heard some good things about it I've warmed to it. The nurse said I shouldn't be getting my hopes up.
To be honest I'm fed up with them. They've been happy to send mum almost anywhere because it suited them, but now she might have a bed in a suitable home they aren't happy. I understand their reasoning, it just doesn't please me as it feels like they are treating mum as a second class citizen. Anyhows I told the nurse that the social worker has told me that KP have stated that they do not mind whether they get mum or the man. I've also pointed out that the social worker has told me that the ward has no influence over who gets the bed and that it comes down to who gets their funding in place first. Also that I'm told mum's paperwork will be less complex than his so we stand a good chance of the bed going to to mum.
I really and truly hate all this. I hate seeing that man we are in competition with when I go onto the ward and now I feel I have a bit of a dilemma. Part of me is tempted to make a fuss about the ward making it plain they don't want mum to have the bed when I think they should at least to my face appear to be impartial. The other part thinks I liked PC better, would it be such a terrible thing if mum waited for a bed there. As number one on the list it cannot be long to wait surely. PC has a really good activities programme, KP less so. Mum of old would have enjoyed the activities, mum now only might enjoy the activities. How I wish this were done with and that mum were in PC or KP and settled.
Jorgie glad you feel a little better and good for you and SIL getting away. Enjoy Ireland and give Molly a big hug in person from me. Xxx
Oh Lavender wish all could be sorted for you and your Mum. Jump on the plane and come to Ireland with us.
Yes LadyA flying into Dublin on Monday morning and staying at the Clayton Hotel until Wednesday morning with a meet up with Molly. Are you any where near x
Yes LadyA flying into Dublin on Monday morning and staying at the Clayton Hotel until Wednesday morning with a meet up with Molly. Are you any where near x
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