Well, it's like turning on a switch. At half past four, every afternoon, my husband starts to become argumentative, and accuses me of picking on him, and starting disputes.
He is incapable of using a gentle or kind voice whilst "sundowning" goes on. Everything he says is said in an angry, frustrated voice.
It last until he goes to bed (8 pm or earlier) and by then I am so upset that there is no way that I can relax and sleep. I get accused of holding opinions which I do not in fact hold.
It wears me out -to a point of RAGE, actually.
And then he wakes up in the morning, remembers nothing of the evening before, and is kind and gentle (even if confused and repetitive.)
Has anyone got any tips? Or even a few words of comfort. I can't sleep after all the aggravation - I am too tense.
This afternoon I asked him to help me put some medicine on the cat's neck. So he picked up the poor cat by the scruff of the neck, and held her dangling, for about twenty seconds. Cat was distressed, as was I. I kept saying, 'Put her DOWN!' but he ignored me.
Sometimes I wish the late evening could be abolished in my house.
He is incapable of using a gentle or kind voice whilst "sundowning" goes on. Everything he says is said in an angry, frustrated voice.
It last until he goes to bed (8 pm or earlier) and by then I am so upset that there is no way that I can relax and sleep. I get accused of holding opinions which I do not in fact hold.
It wears me out -to a point of RAGE, actually.
And then he wakes up in the morning, remembers nothing of the evening before, and is kind and gentle (even if confused and repetitive.)
Has anyone got any tips? Or even a few words of comfort. I can't sleep after all the aggravation - I am too tense.
This afternoon I asked him to help me put some medicine on the cat's neck. So he picked up the poor cat by the scruff of the neck, and held her dangling, for about twenty seconds. Cat was distressed, as was I. I kept saying, 'Put her DOWN!' but he ignored me.
Sometimes I wish the late evening could be abolished in my house.