Diary
Hello Fullticket
I keep a diary too! You're right, it's a great way to get the thoughts out of your head and at times it's been useful as a reminder of appointments, observations, etc. I'm also keeping as 'evidence' of mum's deterioration and what I do for her for when my brother challenges decisions I've made.
Hello Fullticket
I keep a diary too! You're right, it's a great way to get the thoughts out of your head and at times it's been useful as a reminder of appointments, observations, etc. I'm also keeping as 'evidence' of mum's deterioration and what I do for her for when my brother challenges decisions I've made.
Are you keeping accounts of your mother's income and expenditure? Assuming you are then I would just send her a print out/email of the last few months. If your mum is in a care home or sheltered housing then a financial assessment would have been done. She could ask for a copy of this from the council. Your solicitor has been involved so you are already contributing to the finances of this 'investigation' and I would make it clear you want no other involvement. I would be tempted now to just sit back and let them all get on with it - if you get too involved then you might end up having to pay to defend your mother/yourself.
I do feel your pain as I have a brother with the same attitude (seen mum twice in four years and wanted an immediate pay-out on the sale of her house). I keep records - and a diary - so that if and when there is a question about where the money is going I can produce four years' worth of spreadsheets and details of where I/she/we went on what day. The diary is also hugely helpful in letting me vent feelings onto the page, rather than screaming my head off in the supermarket! xx