How do l deal with...?
- Thread starter Frances43
- Start date
i have no suggestions, sorry. But i want you to know that you have been heard and your pain and misery is understood all too well by us, on here. When a spouse gets like that - what can be done - I can't do anything with mine and most of the time he is not nearly that bad but as bad as he gets is far worse than I know what to do with !!!!!!
Hello Frances
All I can suggest is you ask the doctor for a spare supply of the medication which you can keep to give your husband, if he can`t find what he`s hidden, and is willing to accept it. Or....if you find his meds, keep them to one side so you have control.
Does he get his supply from the pharmacy or do you? If you do, just give him one week`s supply if you can get away with it so you can keep the rest safe.
I know it sounds devious but it is in his best interests.
All I can suggest is you ask the doctor for a spare supply of the medication which you can keep to give your husband, if he can`t find what he`s hidden, and is willing to accept it. Or....if you find his meds, keep them to one side so you have control.
Does he get his supply from the pharmacy or do you? If you do, just give him one week`s supply if you can get away with it so you can keep the rest safe.
I know it sounds devious but it is in his best interests.
The feeling of being in control is very important to people with bvFTD. My OH constantly accuses me of "taking him over" and "treating him like a child" whenever I suggest things to him. He seems to hear mere suggestions as orders, which will set him off.
Perhaps an alarmed dossette box would be the answer? https://www.alzproducts.co.uk/pill-dispensers-organizers.html. If someone else could suggest it, or you could persuade him it was his idea
, he could keep it in his room and the alarm would alert you both (whats that noise? Oh, its your dossette box!)
Perhaps an alarmed dossette box would be the answer? https://www.alzproducts.co.uk/pill-dispensers-organizers.html. If someone else could suggest it, or you could persuade him it was his idea
, he could keep it in his room and the alarm would alert you both (whats that noise? Oh, its your dossette box!)
My dad used to get very grumpy when we phoned to remind him to take his meds. I used to dread making that call! An alarmed dosette box works for him.
We have the round one with 28 compartments and an alarm. Expensive but its saved my sanity!
Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
We have the round one with 28 compartments and an alarm. Expensive but its saved my sanity!
Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
Taking medication
I am grateful for the replies I have received. It amazed me how similar the problems of other carers seem to be the same. It seems as if I am now regarded as a challenge to him and his authority, my husband regards himself as in charge and is he is never wrong. Even when what he is doing is completely off the wall. As far as medication goes, he hides it as I said previously, but I have offered to give it to him and he refuses and wont take it from me as he doesn't want me interfering and thinking that I can control his medication. He gets very angry if I suggest things to him to make his life easier.
I am grateful for the replies I have received. It amazed me how similar the problems of other carers seem to be the same. It seems as if I am now regarded as a challenge to him and his authority, my husband regards himself as in charge and is he is never wrong. Even when what he is doing is completely off the wall. As far as medication goes, he hides it as I said previously, but I have offered to give it to him and he refuses and wont take it from me as he doesn't want me interfering and thinking that I can control his medication. He gets very angry if I suggest things to him to make his life easier.
Thank you for your posts tonight; just what I needed in support.
My hubby has Parkinsons and vascular issues and these challenges pop up now and then. It helped me just to read what you've all posted. Not as alone as I feel sometimes (like tonight). Thank you, Carers! : )
My hubby has Parkinsons and vascular issues and these challenges pop up now and then. It helped me just to read what you've all posted. Not as alone as I feel sometimes (like tonight). Thank you, Carers! : )
My Dad went through a phase of hating the meds,i succeded in getting them into him by giving the pills with jelly or ice cream in a bowl,sometimes cut the pills in two.
Worth a try,good luck...
Worth a try,good luck...
Hello Frances
My husband was hiding his medication and throwing it out of the toilet window. I told his doctor who put in his records `refusing medication`.
After a while my husband kept complaining he didn`t feel well and my stock answer was it was because he wasn`t taking his meds. After a while he gave in and accepted it. He then allowed me to give it to him.
I was also accused of taking his independence away.
My husband was hiding his medication and throwing it out of the toilet window. I told his doctor who put in his records `refusing medication`.
After a while my husband kept complaining he didn`t feel well and my stock answer was it was because he wasn`t taking his meds. After a while he gave in and accepted it. He then allowed me to give it to him.
I was also accused of taking his independence away.
Medication
Thank you for the many helpful comments, but the problem is getting worse. The nurse who visits my husband each week, has arranged for his medication to be delivered in a special box with the day and time on it. Thinking that would work, but it hasn't he regularly forgets to take it because he hides the packs away, and when I have offered to give it him he refuses saying it's none of my business. The nurse is concerned, he lies to her saying he has taken it, she knows this, asks to see his medication and he refuses. In the meantime he is becoming more erratic and at times abusive towards me. Any suggestions, as this is not easy. My husband has bvFTD.
Thank you for the many helpful comments, but the problem is getting worse. The nurse who visits my husband each week, has arranged for his medication to be delivered in a special box with the day and time on it. Thinking that would work, but it hasn't he regularly forgets to take it because he hides the packs away, and when I have offered to give it him he refuses saying it's none of my business. The nurse is concerned, he lies to her saying he has taken it, she knows this, asks to see his medication and he refuses. In the meantime he is becoming more erratic and at times abusive towards me. Any suggestions, as this is not easy. My husband has bvFTD.
