Hello everyone. Myself and my brothers are caring for my Mum and Dad who have dementia & alzheimers.
My Mum over the last year has started accusing my teenage sons of stealing from her.
She's set on them having my dads bank card and taking money out if their account, she barricades her bedroom door and puts notes up on it saying Private Keep Out, and the other day when I called her she said she was out in the garden but had put a chair up against the door to stop them getting in!
She's on a loop with her memory and stuff that may have happened weeks/months ago she refers to like it was last week.
It's difficult to deal with as of course they are my sons and I understand this is her condition, but it still hits me on the heart sometimes (Mum was a massive part of the boys life when they were babies and children and had a lovely relationship with them).
Not to mention how they both feel - they are boys and 18 (twins). I take my hat off to them - we've had conversations with them to reassure this is not Nanny talking but the condition, and to give them huge credit they still go round and sit with them and cook tea for them .
My question is - what's the best way to deal with this day to day with my mums best interests at heart?
To her it's real and happening, which hurts me to think she's suffering emotionally with it all. She was getting really tearful and stressed, and the doctor has just upped the anti-depressants that she has been prescribed so that may help.
I'm told that distraction and changing the subject is the best thing - anyone else out there going through the same? Thank you for listening
My Mum over the last year has started accusing my teenage sons of stealing from her.
She's set on them having my dads bank card and taking money out if their account, she barricades her bedroom door and puts notes up on it saying Private Keep Out, and the other day when I called her she said she was out in the garden but had put a chair up against the door to stop them getting in!
She's on a loop with her memory and stuff that may have happened weeks/months ago she refers to like it was last week.
It's difficult to deal with as of course they are my sons and I understand this is her condition, but it still hits me on the heart sometimes (Mum was a massive part of the boys life when they were babies and children and had a lovely relationship with them).
Not to mention how they both feel - they are boys and 18 (twins). I take my hat off to them - we've had conversations with them to reassure this is not Nanny talking but the condition, and to give them huge credit they still go round and sit with them and cook tea for them .
My question is - what's the best way to deal with this day to day with my mums best interests at heart?
To her it's real and happening, which hurts me to think she's suffering emotionally with it all. She was getting really tearful and stressed, and the doctor has just upped the anti-depressants that she has been prescribed so that may help.
I'm told that distraction and changing the subject is the best thing - anyone else out there going through the same? Thank you for listening
