Hi again MsWomble
there are members who have organised full time care at home, so some may respond given time
I'd just like to add that the statement from your dad that
he has a house so why can't he live there
needs to be interrogated by the representative
it's easy to just ask 'where do you want to live?' or 'do you want to live at home?' and to take the answer as 'gospel' - however, the person with dementia has mostly lost the capacity to understand what the going home really entails, or even exactly what and where the 'home' is - you will know best how much capacity your dad actually has to weigh up the pros and cons of this decision (and after all, you and he agreed to the care home placement for good reason, I assume)
so follow up is needed to get to grips with what your dad really understands - does he know what/where his house is (and isn't thinking of a previous home or even his childhood home), who will/will not be there with him, what he can/cannot do for himself, that he will have new carers living with him all day every day .....
sometimes it comes down to what is in his best interests ie what he needs, rather than what he wants
sorry - you're probably wrestling with all this already
no easy answers, are there !