Wow. If she does, it is remarkably early stage! How frustrating and annoying for you. I think that she can pay those card games etc is an indication her brain works well enough.
Everything can be faked. However, dementia is so variable, and can be intermittent. People often mention 'hostessing', i.e. behaving very well in front of visitors of professionals, and not at all in front of family and friends. it is part of the illness, or rather a part of the person's response to their illness, trying to hold it all together.
I remember a man who was found guilty of serious fraud, who was released from prison as he had dementia. However he made a 'remarkable recovery' once back home. Ho Ho. I thought, however it is possible that he did have early dementia which was made much worse by the change in circumstances and he did appear better once out. Or else he was a crook and a good actor. who knows?
I don't see this as someone faking dementia. I see this as someone thinking they have dementia because they associate it with memory loss.
My symptoms started 7 years ago and as CG describes with her Mam, I knew something was very wrong and had experience of caring for people with dementia in a personal and professional capacity. What people don't understand is you don't necessarily lose all of your skills overnight or all of the time, so it can readily appear to others that nothing is wrong. I can do lots of things, I have to, I live alone, but there are many things I can no longer do consistently. I do think though that being in an environment with others, loving friends and/or family does help maintain some skills not least because when you can't 'think' what to do any longer you can copy and watch what someone else is doing and take a lead from that. I am 'better' if a friend stays but my symptoms remain. It has been a very hard road to be listened to and understood and get the help that I need to function in any way on a daily basis and it would/does distress me very much if I thought people thought I was 'faking' it. Family members are those who should be able to recognize something is 'wrong' even if they can't pinpoint what it is.
Best wishes
Sue
My mom died of breast cancer at the time i was busy finishing my college course. That was my biggest frustration in my life. My mom and i were never close. We never i love you each other. So when i met my mother in law i felt loved and for the first time i was hugged and told i love you. I love her. She is sweet and i thought she accepted me. They are whites. Americans. I AM ASIAN. Filipino. I married her son. And he took us, me and my daughter from my ex, took us here in the united states. I was overwhelmed with the cultural shocks. Old people living on their own. We Filipinos take care of our old folks. We spend for them. From where i come from you can never find an old person living alone. So it bothers me so much that my husbands mom lives alone after her husband died. Thats mind blowing for me. So i was the one who insisted that we take her in. But i did not know what i was in for. She claims she has dementia and would always comment in anything we say or do. One time she told me we are different and maybe thats the way we were raised. Im trying to be patient. I do her laundry and i cook for her. She had back surgery so she say she always hurt her feet her back. She said shes tired of sitting around and we need to give her something to do. I keep telling her this is her house she can do anything she wants. She sees mess and wont clean it up but when i clean up she would say she cleaned it up already and why am i cleaning it again she say i think shes a very dirty person. I felt like she is always in competition with me. I have a full time job. I work first shift my husband works second. I used to wait for my husband so i can have a kiss and a short talk about our day before i go to bed. She would wait for him and race with me and tell him how shes hurting and sometimes would even make up stories. My husband comes home from work tired. I want to make a happy conversation and ask about his day. Not stress him more with complaints and pain he cant do anything about. I love my husband. I want to take care of her mom. But this dementia claim is making me feel like shes just putting it on and i also feel bad about thinking that way