Hi everyone,
My Mum had Lewy Bodies dementia. I helped my Dad care for her, doing all the liasing with services and care, even taking over changing incontinence pads and helping her shower as she would refuse to let him. All the time I got more issues with him accepting care and help, and arguing with me constantly that they weren't ready for it.
Mum died of a heart attack in August 2014, and now Dad has been diagnosed with Altzheimers. I've been caring for him since last September / October, when he started to have a few weeks in a row obsessing over something, that would mean he would pace the floor all night, then ring us or come round (we live round the corner), asking the same thing over and over again.
He went onto some anti anxiety meds and was better.
Now just a few weeks into his Altzheimers diagnosis, after being told he can no longer drive, his car failed its MOT the same week anyway. He now cannot retain any of this information and wants his car back. Even if we put it back on his drive immobilised, he will ring us constantly asking us to help him to fix it.
I feel bad for him, but explaining it all to him upto 10 times a day is very wearing, it's also very disruptive for myself and my husband trying to run our own business!
I am at the end of my tether, and dreading the phone ringing! I've even given him a different set of numbers and removed our work and home ones, but he has us on memory speed dial, which is ironic!
My Mum had Lewy Bodies dementia. I helped my Dad care for her, doing all the liasing with services and care, even taking over changing incontinence pads and helping her shower as she would refuse to let him. All the time I got more issues with him accepting care and help, and arguing with me constantly that they weren't ready for it.
Mum died of a heart attack in August 2014, and now Dad has been diagnosed with Altzheimers. I've been caring for him since last September / October, when he started to have a few weeks in a row obsessing over something, that would mean he would pace the floor all night, then ring us or come round (we live round the corner), asking the same thing over and over again.
He went onto some anti anxiety meds and was better.
Now just a few weeks into his Altzheimers diagnosis, after being told he can no longer drive, his car failed its MOT the same week anyway. He now cannot retain any of this information and wants his car back. Even if we put it back on his drive immobilised, he will ring us constantly asking us to help him to fix it.
I feel bad for him, but explaining it all to him upto 10 times a day is very wearing, it's also very disruptive for myself and my husband trying to run our own business!
I am at the end of my tether, and dreading the phone ringing! I've even given him a different set of numbers and removed our work and home ones, but he has us on memory speed dial, which is ironic!
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