Hi All,
Now...what do I do? I've posted here before and mentioned the apppalling burden that I appear to be carrying alone regarding Mum who has vascular dementia and now I'm so p****** off I don't know where to start:
Today:
8.00am - call Mum to remind her that a halogen heater that I've bought for her on the internet is coming
1:0ppm - frantic call from Mum to say that her bank has sent her a letter telling her that she "has no money". Wrong - the bank sent her a letter in error which should have been addressed to be regarding third party signatory.
1.30pm - go over there to sort things out and to wait for this flippin heater to arrive to show her how to use it.
2.30pm - takes an hour to get there (appalling traffic)
2.45pm - heater arrives. Mum hysterical as it's "something new". Not suitable. Needs to go back. ANOTHER THING FOR ME TO ORGANISE
2.55pm - worry, worry, mither, worry (Not even from Yorkshire!). Her brother is coming to visit her at the end of the week (my Uncle) and what should she cook for him? She no longer has the capacity to plan for meals, write a shopping list, cook and generally look after people. Muggins here: "I'll cook a casserole, bring it over, come over on Saturday night and order take away/DVD, come over for Sunday lunch, come over next Tuesday to cook some chinese food, don't worry Mum it's OK, it's OK no need to worry"
3.00pm - Arrival of wonderful neighbour (a true gem). This lady has the courage to tell my Mum to wash her hair, which she hasn't done for 2 weeks. I just couldn't get the words out.
4.30pm - Arrive home - knackered, heart broken at seeing my Mum in such a state
4.45pm - leave message with my two sisters and brother
6,00pm - sister no. 1. (get this...twin sister!) calls back. Doing yoga DVD. Just not interested. Not planning a visit while our uncle is there, vague invitation about Saturday week. Me: gobsmacked
6.10pm - sister no. 2 - better, much nicer person. We need to solve this, what can we do, what is the solution, stop doing so much, Susan you will make yourself ill
8.25pm - no answer from emails or phone message from brother, who has not seen her since December.
Meanwhile... Power of Attorney needs to be registered and nobody is taking it seriously.
Meanwhile... I have HALF A MILLION POUNDS of business to close this year. I've been working for 20 years, have decided not to have children and I work full-time with a very responsible job.
Err...can you tell I'm just that little bit stressed?
I'm so down, I don't know what to do. And now my telly has stopped working.
Susan
Now...what do I do? I've posted here before and mentioned the apppalling burden that I appear to be carrying alone regarding Mum who has vascular dementia and now I'm so p****** off I don't know where to start:
Today:
8.00am - call Mum to remind her that a halogen heater that I've bought for her on the internet is coming
1:0ppm - frantic call from Mum to say that her bank has sent her a letter telling her that she "has no money". Wrong - the bank sent her a letter in error which should have been addressed to be regarding third party signatory.
1.30pm - go over there to sort things out and to wait for this flippin heater to arrive to show her how to use it.
2.30pm - takes an hour to get there (appalling traffic)
2.45pm - heater arrives. Mum hysterical as it's "something new". Not suitable. Needs to go back. ANOTHER THING FOR ME TO ORGANISE
2.55pm - worry, worry, mither, worry (Not even from Yorkshire!). Her brother is coming to visit her at the end of the week (my Uncle) and what should she cook for him? She no longer has the capacity to plan for meals, write a shopping list, cook and generally look after people. Muggins here: "I'll cook a casserole, bring it over, come over on Saturday night and order take away/DVD, come over for Sunday lunch, come over next Tuesday to cook some chinese food, don't worry Mum it's OK, it's OK no need to worry"
3.00pm - Arrival of wonderful neighbour (a true gem). This lady has the courage to tell my Mum to wash her hair, which she hasn't done for 2 weeks. I just couldn't get the words out.
4.30pm - Arrive home - knackered, heart broken at seeing my Mum in such a state
4.45pm - leave message with my two sisters and brother
6,00pm - sister no. 1. (get this...twin sister!) calls back. Doing yoga DVD. Just not interested. Not planning a visit while our uncle is there, vague invitation about Saturday week. Me: gobsmacked
6.10pm - sister no. 2 - better, much nicer person. We need to solve this, what can we do, what is the solution, stop doing so much, Susan you will make yourself ill
8.25pm - no answer from emails or phone message from brother, who has not seen her since December.
Meanwhile... Power of Attorney needs to be registered and nobody is taking it seriously.
Meanwhile... I have HALF A MILLION POUNDS of business to close this year. I've been working for 20 years, have decided not to have children and I work full-time with a very responsible job.
Err...can you tell I'm just that little bit stressed?
I'm so down, I don't know what to do. And now my telly has stopped working.
Susan