Susan
Having been through the hell of Vascular Dementia with my Mother who died Nov 2006 at age 90 you have my immemnse sympathy
My Mother was only increasingly strange for about 2 years before she really lost control of finances etc 9 months before she died and thankfully i had absolutely no problem taking over with power of attorney ........She too was fiercly independant and in total denial that anything was wrong with her whilst everyone else could see it .....once she collapsed and was taken into hospital with pneumonia the detioration was rapid and not even a saint could have coped with her
The CT scan which should have been done 5 yrs previously if the doctors had not been so darn arrogant and stupid revealed numerous infarcts and cerebral atrophy and the prognosis was a year at best .......thanks to her weakened state and the emergence of C Diff we were spared that and after 5 weeks in hospital with threat of an EMI unit she died
In those last years all the nasty sides of my Mother came well to the fore and its truly immensley hard to even remember if she ever had a nice side
AD and VD changes a person so much that especially if you have the non stop stress of caring or running back and forth trying to deal with one crisis after another it will break you faster than you think
No matter how much you love your Mother or care about her welfare there rapidly comes a point where only a full time care home can cope and on no account should you beat yourself up for it
I 100% blame the utter arrogance of the medical profession for refusing to accept the paramedics diagnosis 5 yrs earlier on her 1st collapse because had they done so and bothered then to do a CT scan or taken my sister and myself seriously much of what we all coped with in her latter years could have been avoided and a lot more besides .....
Having been through the hell of Vascular Dementia with my Mother who died Nov 2006 at age 90 you have my immemnse sympathy
My Mother was only increasingly strange for about 2 years before she really lost control of finances etc 9 months before she died and thankfully i had absolutely no problem taking over with power of attorney ........She too was fiercly independant and in total denial that anything was wrong with her whilst everyone else could see it .....once she collapsed and was taken into hospital with pneumonia the detioration was rapid and not even a saint could have coped with her
The CT scan which should have been done 5 yrs previously if the doctors had not been so darn arrogant and stupid revealed numerous infarcts and cerebral atrophy and the prognosis was a year at best .......thanks to her weakened state and the emergence of C Diff we were spared that and after 5 weeks in hospital with threat of an EMI unit she died
In those last years all the nasty sides of my Mother came well to the fore and its truly immensley hard to even remember if she ever had a nice side
AD and VD changes a person so much that especially if you have the non stop stress of caring or running back and forth trying to deal with one crisis after another it will break you faster than you think
No matter how much you love your Mother or care about her welfare there rapidly comes a point where only a full time care home can cope and on no account should you beat yourself up for it
I 100% blame the utter arrogance of the medical profession for refusing to accept the paramedics diagnosis 5 yrs earlier on her 1st collapse because had they done so and bothered then to do a CT scan or taken my sister and myself seriously much of what we all coped with in her latter years could have been avoided and a lot more besides .....
