If only my dad could see that he is just as important as my mam. He has told me often that he is not important. However I try to explain to him that he is - if nothing else, he's important to me - he just won't or can't see it . I'm afraid I've given up trying to persuade him, now. I don't believe he'll ever change and that makes me so sad, while at the same time admiring him for his determination. But I feel that I'm losing two parents to Alzheimers, and that's something I find difficult to cope with. In fact, to my shame, it's made me withdraw a bit. Self preservation.
I feel exactly the same collegegirl. My Dad seems fully prepared to give up the rest of his life to caring for my Mum and I do admire him for it, but selfishly I want him to have time (and a little bit of energy) left over for me and my daughter, who is only 9 and idolises her Grandad. I think it's just something else to add to the list of things to try and come to terms with