My father has been in hospital for 2 months he has dementia, during the last month he has contracted C Diff and now has pneumonia. He is very ill and has not eaten in over 2 weeks as he can no longer swallow. We were told on Thursday that he was v weak and that really there was nothing more they could do for him other than palliative care. In a weird way it was a relief as we have all been battling so long and to no gain but we were v distressed at the thought of him dying in hospital. The consultant felt he was too ill to be moved and that probably only had hours or a few days to live. That was 4 days ago and Dad is more lucid now than he has been in a long time, he is motionless mostly but looks at you and seems to know what is happening. It is so hard as there just seems nothing we can do but how long can this go on for it is just torture seeing him so frail and ill. I have tried to get support and it seems that we may be able to get something through the hospital if they get macmillan involved but trying to get hold of someone ....oh it is a nightmare and my brain is just not working properly. Please can anyone help ...has anyone been in a similar situation or go any terminal care.
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