Helen33
Registered User
It has been on my mind today about how many times I have talked about making sure that Alan had the best care possible. It crossed my mind whether I might have come across as someone who was saying that I was the best carer and blowing my own trumpet
So would you allow me to explain what I always meant then and why I used that term so often.
When the consultant confirmed that Alan had FTD he said that nothing to little was known about this form of dementia, that there was no cure and that nothing whatsoever could be done. I left the clinic with NOTHING. I had no information; I had been told that no one knew about it so there would be no point in trying to find information; I had been told that nothing could be done and that it wasn't Alzheimers disease.
I had a husband who was losing his abilities and I had no idea how to help him and so I started to try to help him myself with no knowledge whatsoever of what I was doing I found out what he responded well to and what he didn't and the process began. It was easier in the early days - easier but not easy!! A colleague saw my worn out and anxious state and asked whether I'd been in touch with the Alzheimers Society and I said no because Alan didn't have Alzheimers disease. She said she didn't think it would matter. To cut a long story short I eventually found Talking Point and it was from there that I began to learn more and more and was encouraged, supported and spurred on by you all. I realised I was learning how to give Alan the best life possible If it was left to what happened with the consultant Alan would have had a very poor quality life and probably a very distressed and unhappy one.
So I was never saying that I was the best carer but that through Talking Point Alan was enabled to have the best life possible because of what I gained from you all.
I am so glad that I have had a chance to explain this.
Love
So would you allow me to explain what I always meant then and why I used that term so often.
When the consultant confirmed that Alan had FTD he said that nothing to little was known about this form of dementia, that there was no cure and that nothing whatsoever could be done. I left the clinic with NOTHING. I had no information; I had been told that no one knew about it so there would be no point in trying to find information; I had been told that nothing could be done and that it wasn't Alzheimers disease.
I had a husband who was losing his abilities and I had no idea how to help him and so I started to try to help him myself with no knowledge whatsoever of what I was doing I found out what he responded well to and what he didn't and the process began. It was easier in the early days - easier but not easy!! A colleague saw my worn out and anxious state and asked whether I'd been in touch with the Alzheimers Society and I said no because Alan didn't have Alzheimers disease. She said she didn't think it would matter. To cut a long story short I eventually found Talking Point and it was from there that I began to learn more and more and was encouraged, supported and spurred on by you all. I realised I was learning how to give Alan the best life possible If it was left to what happened with the consultant Alan would have had a very poor quality life and probably a very distressed and unhappy one.
So I was never saying that I was the best carer but that through Talking Point Alan was enabled to have the best life possible because of what I gained from you all.
I am so glad that I have had a chance to explain this.
Love