I have just had a bit of a battle with dad who wanted to walk to the toilet. I said to him "Do you think I would be wasting my time cleaning you up and changing your pad if you could". Unfortunately compassionate caring didn't come into it. Dad has no capacity now@ toileting or walking. I did say I could use the stand aid and commode but that was a no go. He was determined to walk... Thank heavens for bed rails. He is now more comfortable. We did apologize to each other as it's not really in my nature to be off with dad now. He is dirty a lot now so he would be constantly on the loo.