Hi. First post. Introducing myself . I'm 58 live in the States and just got back from a trip to visit Mum. She just turned 90 and two years ago suffered a stroke which deprived her of the use of her body's right side. She had some "mild cognitive impairment" but the damage seemed mostly physical . My sister and her husband moved in to take care of her in January 2020. My sister had noticed an uptick in dementia like symptoms over this time and its been really really hard on them both. We have been unable to get a formal diagnosis because my mum refuses. Cut to now. During my visit it became clear to me and my google searches that mum has probably got full blown Vascular Dementia ..like stage 4/5. My sister and brother in law are "done"/at their wits end and I'm back in the USA wondering what on earth to do. Mum hates the idea of a home/she's very proud and has always been super independent. She hates to think that she is mentally impaired in any way for the above reasons and more.. I think she finds it overwhelming/frightening. She is capable of getting dressed/bathroom duties/making tea/sandwiches but that's about it. My sister and I are looking to see if it will be possible to get sufficient home care to give her a safe and meaningful life while simultaneously allowing my sister and her husband to go back to some kind of semi normal/like no longer living with her/going back to work. There. I've said too much/haven't said enough. I know there is a lot to unpack but I/we are kinda lost/can't find the maps for getting to the next place. Any and all suggestions are welcome. Thank you all in advance. Superubes