I’m so glad you had a nice visit, to use your own words, you do seem to want your cake and eat it……you know that’s not possible though, right?????
You can’t win….. there is no right or wrong way to be, all you can do is what’s right for you now, because you know Bridget is cared for so well, and is as settled as is possible with dementia.
Peter you have to find things to fill your days, not easy I know and that’s not so you forget Bridget…..no no no, but it’s a must so you are not sat dwelling on what you have lost……something you can’t change no matter how you torture and punish yourself.
You need to believe all the wonderful advice that your friends here have been giving you for years now, really believe, and accept that you did the absolute best you could and continue to do….. we all make mistakes Peter and think we should or shouldn’t have done xyz, but in your heart of heart know you did your best and you need to take comfort from that, and stop this punishing yourself…
Going to shut up now as I’ve had a lot to say for someone who said in the beginning I don’t post as have nothing positive to say……
Take care x
You can’t win….. there is no right or wrong way to be, all you can do is what’s right for you now, because you know Bridget is cared for so well, and is as settled as is possible with dementia.
Peter you have to find things to fill your days, not easy I know and that’s not so you forget Bridget…..no no no, but it’s a must so you are not sat dwelling on what you have lost……something you can’t change no matter how you torture and punish yourself.
You need to believe all the wonderful advice that your friends here have been giving you for years now, really believe, and accept that you did the absolute best you could and continue to do….. we all make mistakes Peter and think we should or shouldn’t have done xyz, but in your heart of heart know you did your best and you need to take comfort from that, and stop this punishing yourself…
Going to shut up now as I’ve had a lot to say for someone who said in the beginning I don’t post as have nothing positive to say……
Take care x
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