Hello. I’m new to this forum so sorry if this has been posted before. My mother is currently in a care home for a four week assessment following discharge from hospital. Before she went into hospital we did not even know she had dementia but she has now been diagnosed with mixed dementia including vascular and frontotemporal. We had known for a while that things were not good but she was still living in her own bungalow and managing fairly well with only the odd bit of family help from me and my son. She was admitted to hospital in early December as she was having hallucinations and had atrial fibrillation. To cut a long story short, due to a covid outbreak in the hospital she has only just been discharged to a care home until social services decide if she is able to return home or not. She has not taken that very well and has aimed all her anger at me as I’ve had her locked up.
i have never been close to my mother as she prefers men to women but my brother lives too Far away to visit very often so I get the brunt of her rages. Yesterday she had a complete melt down in the home and told me to get out and I was evil and two faced. In front of me on my mobile she told my brother and niece how awful I was for putting her in a home. She put her hands over her face and sounded like she was crying but when she put her head up, I could see she was dry eyed so it was all for affect. When I did leave, she screamed after me and was shaking the doors to try and escape. I am finding all this very difficult to deal with and really don’t know how to talk to her. I’m daring to return tomorrow morning as the carers say she is better in the morning. I’m also worried social services will discharge her home with a care package as I just don’t think she will be safe. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
i have never been close to my mother as she prefers men to women but my brother lives too Far away to visit very often so I get the brunt of her rages. Yesterday she had a complete melt down in the home and told me to get out and I was evil and two faced. In front of me on my mobile she told my brother and niece how awful I was for putting her in a home. She put her hands over her face and sounded like she was crying but when she put her head up, I could see she was dry eyed so it was all for affect. When I did leave, she screamed after me and was shaking the doors to try and escape. I am finding all this very difficult to deal with and really don’t know how to talk to her. I’m daring to return tomorrow morning as the carers say she is better in the morning. I’m also worried social services will discharge her home with a care package as I just don’t think she will be safe. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks